AIBU to want another baby

[Vaeda]

Just that in the title really.

I’m in my late 20s husband in his early 30s, we have been married 10 years and have 2 beautiful children 5 & 6.
We have a good marriage and a lot of love. Our kids are amazing and we’re incredibly easy babies.

I’ve found myself for the past year or so desperately wanting/needing another child.

I don’t know what it is but I find my hormones are going wild at the moment. My husband is super supportive, but doesn’t really want another child. I have an IUD, he has told me to have it removed but I know he’s just saying it to try and keep me happy.
He says things like sell me on it, and I know if I fell pregnant he would of course be the fantastic dad that he already is.

I would never want him to feel pressured, I try not to bring it up but sometimes it just comes out

I don’t really know what I’m looking for here. Just some advice or for someone to tell me I’m being stupid.

You’re both still v young. Are you sure he doesn’t want another baby? He might be concerned at the practical reasons, but saying ‘convince me’, and telling you do come off contraception, means he’s practically halfway to wanting another one too, imho.

Hi @Vaeda
You're not stupid at all hun xx
Your husband sounds so lovely, i would keep trying to convince him, i'm sure he'll come round to the idea.

You are definitely not being stupid! Last year DH was absolutely adamant he did not want a 4th child. We have 3 DS aged 9, 6 and 3 and I desperately wanted a little girl and wanted to try again even if there was the chance we would have another boy. I carried on bringing it up until he himself actually wanted a 4th child as well. Fast forward to now I'm pregnant with a little girl due in December!

I would say carry on trying to convince him and as PP said he sounds like he's already halfway there just needs convincing. Good luck!

Interesting. Women convince men. Men coerce women - sorry I've just read the Britney thread and to be fair lots of posters were saying it wasn't coercion.

Your husband is being king and generous and putting your desires before his - that's what the good men tend to do. Acknowledge his kindness and be pleased you found one of the good guys.

I'll play devil's advocate... you have two children very close in age. A third child will be a good 6 years younger. They'll be the third wheel with their siblings their entire childhood which must be quite a lonely place. I've seen it happen with a shorter age gap tbf where I feel sorry for the third.

Convice him. Maybe the thread should be how do I convince him ?

Yes, I was seven and nine years younger than my siblings and might as well have been an only child, even when my brother (the nearer) wasn't being a shit to me.

I wouldn't do it, OP. Things are great at present, why risk your health in another pregnancy and birth and all its possible serious outcomes? Hormones going nuts don't seem like a good reason to make a life-changing decision, to me.

Thanks everyone for the advice!

I’m not too worried about the age gap and I was the youngest of three my sister is 6 years older than me. We are best friends.

I have an appointment with my gynaecologist in 2 weeks as I have had a new coil as it’s giving me terrible side affects! (Migraines daily and nausea) so I will see what she has to say and go from there.

Husband thinks I should come off it anyway and give my body a break from having any hormones (added)