To find these comments uncomfortable?

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I am on a Facebook group for parents of autistic children (my oldest child is autistic) but I find some of the posts on there really uncomfortable. Has anyone else noticed this about these groups? So for example today a woman posted that her reception age child said hello and the other children repeated the way he said it and laughed (bare in mind these are mainly 4 year old children a few will be 5) and the comments have shocked me, people saying they would fight the parents? One person said she would have “punched them in the throat” another person saying they were little bitches, others saying they would have humiliated them. I mean fair enough speak to the teacher but aibu thinking grown adults talking about punching a 4 year old is much worse? But the comments are all pretty similar has me thinking I’m the odd one.

After a recent thread about a poster attacking a hotel guest who had reportedly been aggressive to her child, I believe your post. There are plenty of violent Neanderthals around, who think that defending their child means they can be as aggressive as they want to whomever they want. Including children, it appears.

You're not the first person posting on here I've seen describe this kind of behaviour in some such groups. You're not odd, that's deeply disturbing and there's no excuse for it.

I’ve got screen shots of the post for anyone that doesn’t believe

You're not being unreasonable.

Adults are responsible for teaching children how to behave. The child insensitively mocking a child with autism could easily have it explained to them why that is not a nice thing to do.

The world is losing its mind.

@FlannelTunnel I read that thread too with utter disbelief. Four year olds can be educated but unfortunately that will inevitably have to come from the teaching staff because if they have parents that openly say they'd punch someone in the throat, I imagine they're not getting much guidance at home.
Sorry state of affairs

It doesn't surprise me. As a parent of a dual diagnosed child (autism and ADHD) I stepped away from these types of groups years ago.

My general experience is they attract some parents who desperately need support and advice which is who they are aimed at but they also attract some parents whose children are not autistic but displaying violent and learned behaviour but the parent cannot see there own behaviour is being mimicked.

I know this will offend some people but the reality is diagnosis chasers parents do exist but so do those whose children clearly need diagnosis and can't get it because of the huge waitlists.

My personal experience is those whose children have significant needs and are nuerodiverse do not go onto Facebook making comments like that or looking for drama because they are to exhausted from dealing with the day to day challenges that come with raising a disabled child to do so.

The situation you describe above with other children mimicking and teasing another child could easily happen to any child who is nuerodiverse and nuerotypical. My nuerotypical child has had more difficulties from other kids being mean to him than my nuerodiverse child has had. However my nuerodiverse child had (as did we have) significant difficulties with a psycho adult harrasing him and us because she knew he was nuerodiverse and saw him as an easy target. The police ended up having to be involved to stop it.

Unfortunately these typed of groups attack all sorts but admin should be removing people from these groups that are physically threatening others.

Urgh dregs of society
YANBU

I know the vote is small but 13% think it's OK to suggest punching a 4year old in the throat.

What the hell is wrong with you?

No it's not unreasonable but this is what happens when people get together around a common cause sometimes. It's social media, no accountability, they feel safe to say this stuff because "nobody else understands my situation and these people do" it's "us against everyone else" etc etc.

You get my point. I would speak up and say their comments are inappropriate and they should check themselves, or i'd report them to facebook because it's basically hateful and it'll stop them posting on the group.

Sorry but just because people are going through something doesn't mean it's ok for them to comment that way.

Probably the people from the group.

There is definitely an us vs them mentality on there and I do ignore a lot of posts as it seems any time a ND child does something they are always right and the other child is always wrong. So kids lashing out at school obviously the NT child has done something/ said something to provoke it which isn’t always the case. My daughter was hit by an autistic child in her class (she’s autistic as well) and she done absolutely nothing to provoke him we walked past him in the playground and he slapped her across the face, she hadn’t even looked at him or made eye contact.