So bit of a poor me post but its just been a really couple hard weeks for me and I guess I just wanted to see if others think my feelings are valid
Been seeing someone for 18 months
Im a single mum and this is my first serious relationship after seperating from my childrens dad.
When it came to attraction and care and feeling loved he was everything I ever wanted. I considered him my person. i felt like a teenager again.
I never got my children involved as it was my thing for me my time with him. Theres a but....he was very honest about the fact he had BPD and he didnt think the same as everyone and I guess I should have been more aware of the condition.
After about 6 months I started to see a difference in him. The mood swings, the wanting to be centre of attention, the awful lows when he would get really depressed for days. he was very impulsive. after a time i found he also had anger management issues
He would dpeak to me like absolute rubbish. he would guilt trip me and be spiteful. then he would quickly apologise and be the loving person i saw in him.
This past few months its just all become too much, too draining and Im so busy with the children I couldnt always give him the time he wanted.
so i said to him i felt i needed some space, that we both did and just focus on other priorities that we both have.
I admit this was definitely me working towards ending things but trying to do it gently. But all i asked for was some space
He has turned into a completely different person. in that instant he hated me, he has told me that the whole relationship was in my head and i need to get professional help.
Im like where is all this coming from?
he is just being vile like painting me in a horrific light.
Im left feeling sad and withdrawn and like i probably do need bloody counselling myself after having such an intense relationship that has ended so abruptly.
Ive blocked him and deleted all of my own social media as i just want a break
has anyone else been i this situation with someone with bpd? it really does hurt