To ask when you matured as a person?

[Tarantula40]

I'm 32 now and looking back, I was still quite immature up until around 30. I chased so many men who were wrong for me, I dealt with rejection quite badly, I overreacted to things, I was reckless with money and I just cringe when I think of so many situations and conversations I've had.
I feel that I've matured a lot, I haven't fallen out with anyone in a few years. Not perfect but I feel a lot more level headed, sensible and calmer.
Looking back, I'm embarrassed that it took me until the age of 30, though I think mental health issues were also at play.
There are people much younger who seem a lot more mature than I did at that age. When did you feel you'd properly grown up and matured?

I’m 32 and although I’m mature in many ways (I have a DH & kids, I don’t go out drinking like I did in my teens/20s, stopped falling out with people etc) I still massively overreact to certain situations and I’ve no idea if it’s personality/immaturity/lack of emotional intelligence or all three. 🧐

When l fell pregnant for the first time age 25.. l just felt mature and grown up.. and even more so after l gave birth and became a mum age 26

About 35 although 30 was a turning point. I look back and see I was a bit of a dickhead in my 20s tbh.

Probably at 40 with a 4 year old! 🫣

You sound so like me OP. I didnt seem to develop any common sense until after i had my first child at 32. Now I'm 42 and honestly only getting my act together in terms of work and like you said.. not doing cringe worthy things all the time. When i hear people my age on mumsnet talking about being married at 24 and on a good career pathway (just an example) I feel like i wasted so much time being an idiot

I think late 20s early 30s have been a turning point in my life. I had some terrible relationships that I clung to for no good reason, overshared a lot, couldn’t handle my booze but didn’t grasp that I should probably not drink so much in certain situations (e.g. works do’s), let men walk all over me, got hung up on daft things like what other people had (and I didn’t). I’ve always thought of myself as mature, but I really don’t recognise myself from a few years ago!

Common sense maybe earlier but matured around now at 50.

I’ll let you know when it happens! 😄

Jokes aside, I think I’ve always been mature for my age as I had to grow up fast. My dad died when I was a young teen and mum struggled with it, as well as working long hours so I had to make a lot of decisions for myself. I was also a mum myself before my 18th birthday, so that forced me to grow up a lot too. I’m in my early 30s now, with a “grown up” job, two children, the same long term partner I’ve been with since my teens and a mortgage. That feels very grown up. But in other ways, I’m not mature at all. I still manage to make a sexual innuendo from almost anything, dance in the mirror and get more drunk than I probably should when with my friends. I giggle when I see someone running (I don’t know why, it just makes me laugh - stupid, I know) and sometimes cry over the most ridiculously unimportant things, like not having anything to wear or my hair not “going right”. I’m basically a grown up teenager.

Unfortunately I had no choice but to mature at around 16yo. I think the opposite to you though in that I look at young people nowadays and they seem so immature to me that I'm kind of glad I grew up as fast I did

I'm 42 now, realised I never was in my 30s...although I thought so. My children are older, more senior in my career, life is much busier then when my children were smaller.

When DD was born, so when I was 37.

Don't get me wrong, I had a successful career, good income, nice home, and the trappings of adulthood. But before DD, I was an idiot, with the same sense of responsibility and priorities that I had when I was 18. Being responsible for another person really gave me a kick up the arse.