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26 replies

sadgapyearmum · 15/10/2023 12:16

I'm 50 this week and have planned a smallish party at home. Unfortunately I have come down with covid (I tested as I am in contact with vulnerable people). Do you think the party should go ahead thank you

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Overthebow · 15/10/2023 12:18

Are you unwell or asymptomatic? And when is the party? If you’re actually unwell and the party is in the next couple of days then I don’t think the party should go ahead. But if asymptomatic then just tell people and it’s up to them if they come or not.

PenguinRainbows · 15/10/2023 12:19

If you feel well enough to still have the party then do so, same as you would any other illness.

Sauvblanctime · 15/10/2023 12:20

is this a joke?

Somewhatchallenging · 15/10/2023 12:21

No.

Notimeforaname · 15/10/2023 12:22

No

SallyWD · 15/10/2023 12:27

I wouldn't. As its a small party at home I'd just postpone it by a week or so. I know too many healthy middle aged people with long-Covid to risk spreading it.

LynetteScavo · 15/10/2023 12:33

No. I caught Covid just over two weeks ago. I'm still bloody exhausted. If I knew you had invited me to a party knowing you had covid and passed it on to me I probably wouldn't want to be your friend anymore.

If you tell everyone you're covid positive and they still want to come and breath your germs that's up to them.

HarperMae · 15/10/2023 12:34

No you should postpone it

LynetteScavo · 15/10/2023 12:36

Threads like this make me wonder how many people have parties knowing they have a sickness bug etc. It's just not polite. Wear a mask and keep your covid germs to yourself. I actually think it's bloody selfish to know you have a virus and not give a shot about passing it on to others.

NewIdeasToday · 15/10/2023 12:40

No. Just rearrange it.

YokoOnosBigHat · 15/10/2023 12:56

LynetteScavo · 15/10/2023 12:33

No. I caught Covid just over two weeks ago. I'm still bloody exhausted. If I knew you had invited me to a party knowing you had covid and passed it on to me I probably wouldn't want to be your friend anymore.

If you tell everyone you're covid positive and they still want to come and breath your germs that's up to them.

Yeah this. I tested positive two weeks ago today and am still feeling like death warmed up.

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sadgapyearmum · 15/10/2023 13:04

I wouldn't dream of not telling people. Part if the reason I wanted it at this time is that we have family from NZ do it was a goodbye for them as well. I don't feel too bad just a cough and blocked up

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sadgapyearmum · 15/10/2023 13:05

@Sauvblanctime why would this be a joke

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Sauvblanctime · 15/10/2023 13:07

sadgapyearmum · 15/10/2023 13:05

@Sauvblanctime why would this be a joke

You have covid, it’s contagious. It can cause huge issues long term for people and you still want to have your birthday party??????

Litchrally · 15/10/2023 13:15

sadgapyearmum · 15/10/2023 13:04

I wouldn't dream of not telling people. Part if the reason I wanted it at this time is that we have family from NZ do it was a goodbye for them as well. I don't feel too bad just a cough and blocked up

I doubt they’d want to sit on a plane for 24hrs feeling ill and coughing..and potentially ruining other people’s holiday of a life time.

MasterBeth · 15/10/2023 13:20

When is the party? When did you catch COVID? You might be clear by the time of the party. (Don't hold the party if you're not.)

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sadgapyearmum · 15/10/2023 13:40

The party is on Tuesday

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sadgapyearmum · 15/10/2023 13:41

I tested yesterday

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happylittlesloth · 15/10/2023 13:42

Why don't you just let your guests know and say they are welcome to still come around if they really want to catch covid

43ontherocksporfavor · 15/10/2023 13:43

Of course not!

SallyWD · 15/10/2023 13:46

sadgapyearmum · 15/10/2023 13:04

I wouldn't dream of not telling people. Part if the reason I wanted it at this time is that we have family from NZ do it was a goodbye for them as well. I don't feel too bad just a cough and blocked up

Yes but it's not about how you feel. Why don't people get this? I've heard so many say "Oh it was just a sniffle for me so I carried on as normal." It might not be "just a sniffle" for whoever you pass it on to!

dontgobaconmyheart · 15/10/2023 13:49

Surely whether it goes ahead depends on who wants to go once you have told them you have covid, which would presumably be almost nobody and there's the answer?

That should always be other people's choice and my choice would be not to attend nor would I want to host anything if I knew I had covid that I would be passing on to others. I'd absolutely be cancelling. It's unfortunate but the right thing to do.

LynetteScavo · 15/10/2023 13:50

So you intend to infect people who are about to go on a long haul flight. It doesn't matter what virus you have, this is seriously uncool.

43ontherocksporfavor · 15/10/2023 13:53

I had Covid in May and while it was a week of fatigue and headache mainly, my sense of smell still is about 50% and so my taste isn’t great either. That doesn’t happen with a cold. So I would always rather avoid catching it.

LightSpeeds · 15/10/2023 14:02

Well, no! We've all been unwell with Covid at home this week and unable to go to work. I spent the whole of yesterday in bed with a killer headache, fever and vomiting every hour. It was horrific.

Covid affects everyone differently and you can't determine how it will affect someone else based on how it's affecting you.