To have no sympathy for man flu?

[Fuzzyduck31]

My DH has a headache and fever and will not test for COVID. He has been lying either on the sofa or in bed since yesterday afternoon. I've checked his temperature, it's not raised. He has had an appetite and eaten dinner I've made for him the past two nights while solo parenting a 2 and 4 yo (which I mainly do anyway)
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Assuming it's unlike him to take to his bed. Then YABU. Eating isn't really an indication that he's fine. Unless I've got a stomach bug, I'll eat.
Just let him have his illness in peace and hope he pays it forward if you catch whatever he has!

Ah but is he wearing the dressing gown of doom? Sniffling and looking sad and mournful? Is his 'ill' your 'oh just get on with it' when you feel the same? Does he have any chores coming up that he wants to get out of?

Although you didn't finish the OP it sounds like you may have a third child on your hands who does very little anyway.

Yep! Watch out for the dressing gown of doom OP! He's bound to be wearing that with shoulders drooping, and shuffling along without picking his feet up, because it's all too much effort for the poor darling.😂

You sound mean. The person you love doesn’t feel well. Why are you acting so shitty?

He doesn't have a fever if he doesn't have a temperature.

Apart from the headaches, does he actually have any symptoms?

However, the main issue is if he doesn't parent anyway, he's a bit shit. My DH can wallow all he likes when he's sick (and he does) because he's great normally.

Totally agree with MrsTP. How does he have a fever if his temperature is normal? Does he usually take the piss?

There were studies that men do react to flu differently and have lower immune system response.
I have sympathy for them. 🤷 Because I am men flu victim even as a woman🙄
While I get rarely sick, I spike fever which is really hard to get down, end up with headaches, hum in head with tinnitus like sounds, confused and on occasion even essentially delirious with no memory of some events later. Had some fun hallucinations.
BUT I appear ok physically, my appetite goes through the roof. It's all just inside.

Yes, some men are absolutely milking it, no argument about it, but some people genuinely suffer without having the symptoms which bring sympathy like runny nose, cough, looking like death etc.

Your problem is the last sentence, not the flu.

We are about 7 weeks into manflu here. It probably is COVID but I've also been ill and had to carry the entire household dosed up while DH sits on the sofa groaning and watching TV. I have 0 sympathy at this point.

YABU, a bunch of the people on this thread are being unnecessarily nasty. If a woman posted about a male partner acting like you lot she'd be told to LTB.

There's two different issues here. One is whether he is ill or has man flu. The other, which is the main one,is that he doesn't seem to do much parenting when he's not unwell.

This.

Whether he has covid or not is irrelevant.