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Very silly one

42 replies

saamantha19881 · 14/10/2023 20:40

Okay, I know this is a very very minor one... but aibu?

I asked my husband to make me a pot noodle. I'm not feeling very well and do lots of night feeds, so was hoping for a favour whilst I put my feet up.

He said yes and I specifically asked him to not put too much boiling water in because I think it doesn't taste that flavoursome. I prefer it when the stock is a bit thicker. He said yes and got up.
He came back and the hot water is right to the top so now it's completely flavourless.
I said that was a bit frustrating and if he didn't want to do it I would have rather he just said no. He said I am massively over reacting and he didn't even notice.
Am I right to be a bit peeved or am I being dramatic?
By dramatic, obviously this is the mildest of passing comments, not an argument or anything like that lol! My DP told me to put this up to ask your opinions because he thinks I am being so ridiculous you will all say how unreasonable I am.

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ItsThatTimeAgainXmas · 14/10/2023 20:42

I mean really he's done you a solid because pot noodles are absolutely disgusting. Just tell him to get you something else as a replacement. Nip out and get you a takeaway or whatever.

Mercedes45 · 14/10/2023 20:44

He is being ridiculous. The less water the more flavour. I am a pot noodle connessieur. He needs to get in the bin along with that tastless pot noodle he so shamelessly made.

thecatinthetwat · 14/10/2023 20:44

my dp and I always do our own pot noodles, because this is what happens! You have my sympathies op.

ops’ dp, not above the line though surely?!

blanketsmell · 14/10/2023 20:44

Do you think he has done it deliberately or accidentally?

dudsville · 14/10/2023 20:44

I'm not going to vote because you're parenting, but this is just a kind of small thing. I'm not parenting. I often have a hot water bottle and sometimes my dh offers to make it for me, but he's never learned to ease the air out before screwing the lid on. I think you needed to get up and tip the excess out before it was too late or not have him do it.

blanketsmell · 14/10/2023 20:45

And there is a line for a reason so he needs to read the instructions

Butterflyworms · 14/10/2023 20:46

When you're doing night feeds nothing can be an over reaction.

Cinai · 14/10/2023 20:46

If I had no reason to believe that he did it on purpose because he didn’t want to do it for you, I’d just let it go. Such things happen…I’m sure I’ve unintentionally served some less-than-nice food to DH.

WiddlinDiddlin · 14/10/2023 20:46

Is this the only sort of example of him intentionally doing the thing wrong or the opposite to the way you asked, when doing you a 'favour' (in his eyes?)...

Or is it the tip of the iceberg?

Context is everything.. if its a one off, then YABU, but if you can guarantee that he will do this or similar things every bloody time... then yeah, LTB, throw whole husband away, drop him in the sea, etc etc. Its malicious incompetence designed to stop you asking for favours/make you look unreasonable and petty.

TheSmallAssassin · 14/10/2023 20:47

It's the either deliberately doing the opposite of what you'd asked, or just not caring enough to listen properly or do what you'd requested which makes him unreasonable. It's disappointing!

TheOccupier · 14/10/2023 20:47

What kind of fucking idiot can't even make a pot noodle? How can you co-parent with someone so useless?

WhichOfThePickwickTripletsDidIt · 14/10/2023 20:48

We can’t truly tell if you are overreacting because we didn’t see how you reacted.

However — I agree that there is literally no point in making someone a pot noodle, or a cup of tea or whatever, if you do it in the very specific way they (politely?) asked you not to do it. Obviously, you aren’t going to want to eat it.

It’s like it’s been done grudgingly and deliberately badly to send a message because he resented doing it, but he thinks he has retained plausible deniability by ‘just’ getting the water amount wrong.

I would suspect that he’s now calling you unreasonable because you’ve correctly identified that he semi-deliberately did it in a crap way.

LTB

itsgettingweird · 14/10/2023 20:49

Yabu.

Pot noodles are disgusting.

It's a pot noodle.

You could have added hot water yourself to get it right.

You should have got him to make you something decent to eat and then you'd likely feel better. A pot noodle will make you feel more unwell there's so much crap in it.

TeaAndTattoos · 14/10/2023 20:49

I’m with you OP the less water the nicer they taste I like the sauce to be quite thick too.

Mummy08m · 14/10/2023 20:50

Is he sleep deprived too?

Squeeze some lime onto it to salvage it, that's my tip

Mydogmybestfriend · 14/10/2023 20:50

If you use to much water you need to let it sit and be covered for a while

thecatinthetwat · 14/10/2023 20:50

Ltb

junbean · 14/10/2023 20:51

Just say thank you, it's not that hard.

Rabbityface · 14/10/2023 20:52

I would have absolutely lost it at that stage in parenting quite frankly!

WhichOfThePickwickTripletsDidIt · 14/10/2023 20:52

junbean · 14/10/2023 20:51

Just say thank you, it's not that hard.

Getting the water amount right is not that hard either

Rabbityface · 14/10/2023 20:52

Ps add some soy sauce it will be better

Rabbityface · 14/10/2023 20:52

Or ketchup

junbean · 14/10/2023 20:53

WhichOfThePickwickTripletsDidIt · 14/10/2023 20:52

Getting the water amount right is not that hard either

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You sound spoiled. I wish I had someone to make me noodles the wrong way.

That being said I fucking love your username!!

WhichOfThePickwickTripletsDidIt · 14/10/2023 20:54

junbean · 14/10/2023 20:53

You sound spoiled. I wish I had someone to make me noodles the wrong way.

That being said I fucking love your username!!

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Funnily enough, I was actually thinking about things I do for other people, not things other people do for me.

You sound bitter.

ETA but er, thanks

CesareBorgia · 14/10/2023 20:55

Heat it in a pan until it reduces.