what have i done wrong ???

[sazb]

hi there everyone,ive suffered depression for many yeARS now,but reasently felt better,untill a so called friend decided to cut me of completly,we were friends for over 3years and she emailed me,(which i thought was discusting as we were surposed to be best buddies) saying she couldnt make tomorow at all.il explain; went docs few weeks ago they refered my to hospital. and had a hospital appiontmant come through, and i invited her to dinner the day of apointmant as she says she would kindley come with me for moral surport,then as i said had this email saying all this,but was very confused so emailed her etc and said so.she say i dont give a shit about your feelings im feeling shit and basiclly dont want to know.its made me feel bad as a person,as i really dont know what ive done,and really as made me feel of no worth,i feel so angry and hurt,does it mean im a bad person.i really just dont know.im crying all the time,my partners so angry that she could do this,as its made me phisicly ill(sorry about spelling)just could do with you letting me know what you think.

Haven't read the full thread but i've been in similar situation.

I moved to a new area and made friends with a girl, who became my closest friend for a period of about 2 years. During that 2 years I listened to her talking about being a single mum, how her father deserted her when she was younger, how she didn't get on with any of her family and her struggles with work and money. During the last 2 months of our friendship, I began to suffer from a mild depression and found myself confiding in her, not a lot but more than i had previously. She started to cut contact with me gradually and the only thing I could think was that it was because I wasn't solely listening to her. One day I text her to ask her if she could bring a couple of books over (i had lent them to her) when she was due to visit the next day. I received a text saying she thought I was the most selfish person in the world etc. etc. lots of abuse along those lines. Understandably I cut all ties with her and we've never spoken since. I found it really upsetting that someone who i'd listened to for so long, lent money, bought items for kitchen when they broke, could call me selfish just because i relied on her for support.

Aww that a shame you are having to go through this. It does sound like she has problems of her own although that is no excuse for treating someone like that.

You said recently you have been feeling better is it possible that recently you have been a bit less needy (sorry horrible way to put it I know) and she is feeling that maybe now you are not such a pushover with taking her kids or whatever?

I know that sounds awful but I have met people like that.

disscodizzy.poor you hun.hope you feel better now.thats how i feel to.there was a lot more she said to me nasty comments etc,but ive decided myself now,im cutting all ties also.im sure theres pleanty of lovely people out there who needs a good friend.

ineedacleaner,hi there yes i def feel better now,i know what your saying,maybe thats what its about,thanks

I had a friend that finished our 20 year friendship by email once. She is quite overweight and I dared to say I had lost weight. She went ballistic and said I was shallow and that she didnt want to be friends anymore. I didnt reply i just deleted all her address and numbers from my phone and moved on.

Truly you dont need people like this on your life.

err ...in your life!!

widgypog o m g thats so horrable of her,she should have surported you.i think in your case she was sooooo jelous of you.well done for losing weight im trying to at mo. going w wachers

I know sazb. She is always one of those people who is like big is beautiful bla bla. I personally dont like being fat (in fact I HATE it)so I dont know why she was so bitter about it. Anyway it was about 4 years ago now so I am over it, have moved on and have got lovely friends now who all suppoert each other like friends should. Dont worry about her and try to find friends who are worth your time and effort. good luck x

btw good luck at ww . I lost 2 stone doin it.

wow thats fab hun.ive got to lose 4stone befor im at my ideal weight for height etc

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sorry about thatxx

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