To ask what my colleague is trying to achieve…?

[LizzMizz]

…by telling me that she has got me a birthday card but never gave it to me.

My birthday was 5(!) months ago. I work in a small team so we all know each other very well. I’ve got a colleague, who is lovely but she alwaaaays has something going on, she is always busy (IMO a busy fool a lot of the times but that’s just my thoughts) and incredibly all over the place.

For my birthday this year she’s got me a card. Lovely! However she never gave me the card… as far as I’m aware she’s never written in the card. BUT! She keeps bringing it up every now and then… that ohhh your card I forgot to give you your card.

I don’t care, card/no card, my birthday was nearly half a year ago. But it annoys the hell out of me that she brings it up. In my opinion it’s a flipping card, takes a minute to write a message in it and lick the envelope. So if she couldn’t have been bothered to do that, because her ‘she is always very busy’ (her excuse for not giving me the card) that’s fine, but stop bringing it up. What a heck is she trying to achieve? What’s the right response to this. It’s a small thing but started driving me up the wall. Like WTF am I supposed to say? Is anyone every that busy?!

No people aren't that busy, she's obviously terrible at organising herself, or have something going on where she struggles to organise herself. You say she's all over the place and always busy, my friend who is like this has ADHD. But I wouldn't let this anger me, I'd just say to her don't be daft it's long gone save it for next year. She obviously feels bad that she keeps forgetting which is why she's bringing it up, but doesn't feel bad enough to just organise herself and give you it.

I have. I told her not to worry about it. I even suggested to use the card for someone else’s birthday. It’s a teeny thing but just getting annoying.