Hair compliments

[Harrie001]

My DD is 4. She has beautiful blond coily curls which really are very striking. Nothing to do with me - all my DH’s genes.

practically every adult she ever meets immediately comments on her hair. We were out at a community event today where it happened repeatedly and it suddenly dawned on me that maybe this is actually a bit weird for her and potentially something I should be thinking about more carefully.

I’ve always also told her how beautiful her hair is but now wondering if I’m contributing to making too much of a big deal about it.

I don’t know if maybe it could be damaging in the long run - either by making her self conscious or egotistical about it.

Right now she seems ambivalent (apart from absolutely detesting having it brushed) but I can see that changing as she gets more self aware.

I have no experience of having constant comments on my appearance, so not sure how she might be influenced by it. But I worry that it could be quite unhelpful when she gets to tween kind of age.

Anyone got any good advice? Is this something I should worry about or am I massively overthinking?

Damaging? No. Unless you give the idea that her worth as a person is down to her hair. Which I'm sure you're not.

I just wouldn’t overblow the hair thing. Compliments should be varied and balanced so no one aspect forms the majority.

DD had exactly the same hair as a child. Used to get people talking about it a lot. Hasn't done a jot of harm.

It will likely change as she grows up so I wouldn’t worry.

Dd is 19. Also had curly hair, lots of ringlets. Always got comments on it. I am mixed race and her hair is really dark (almost black) like mine but natural curls from her dad.

Just asked her. It’s not bothered her, either way in the slightest. She says it didn’t bother her as a child either. She had her hair cut last week and the hairdresser mentioned how lovely her hair is to style.

She isn’t conceited or self involved or self conscious about having nice hair. Her whole personality isn’t her hair. It’s just hair. She is a well rounded young woman.

I am not really sure I understand the issue. Or why you think there’s potentially an issue. I am sure you are raising her to be a well rounded young woman too, who knows there’s more to life and someone’s personality than appearance or having nice hair.