To be a bit miffed by this?

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Friends wedding in May. Quite a good friend but don't see her that often due to distance and busy lives etc. Went to her hen do as well. Gave her £50 in wedding card at the wedding (put it in the postbox they had on present table for cards)
Never had a thank you for it?
It's not like her to not acknowledge gifts or say thank you so now I'm worrying she didn't get it.
Obviously it's now months since the wedding

Maybe it is a generation thing. But I'm not that old!

Back in my teens / twenties brides would write the thank you cards before the wedding, just adding the type of gift before sending. But after the last couple of weddings I went to, the point was made by bride / bride's mother that there would be a delay in sending out thank you cards as the couple wanted to use a photo from the day on the card. In both cases - no thank you ever received.

I don't need a card with a picture of the bride and groom on it - a quick email would be fine.

You can tell yourself that but no… manners haven’t gone out of style.

In Ireland sending out thank you cards is very common. But you have a grace period of about a year to do it.

Hope this helps!

https://www.shoutoutuk.org/2020/01/29/how-cultures-change-over-time/

@junbean are you raising your children to be as ill-mannered as you? 🤔

Snail mail and thank you notes are incredibly ordinary. I find it hard to believe anyone is so puzzled by the concept

What on earth has this got to do with thanking someone for a gift? 😂

I had this with a wedding I went to a few years back.

I got a £100 gift card and put it in card. I didn't give the couple the option of getting it at the wedding. I happened to be by their house for a business meeting a couple weeks before the wedding, so I let them know I was putting it through the letterbox for safe keeping. I wouldn't have trusted the box on the table, it was so lightweight.

I get that that's not an option if you aren't local.

I got a snail mail thank you a month after the wedding.

Oh and a text the same day I delivered it, to confirm that one of them had it

I guess the couple would have been a bit upset if they hadn't received any wedding cards, y'know, actual cards, or is that old faahioned too?

I presume there would have a been general 'thank you to everyone' at the event so whether I was there or not I am perfectly fine with that, I don't need a personal thank you

Yes absolutely!! I've been reading this thread aloud as well so they can learn from your critical thinking skills 😊

I can't remember the last time I got something from a real person in the mail. It would be nice but those days are gone. I really love everything old fashioned but no one communicates like that anymore. I only get coupons and bills :(

I got married this year, invitations & thank you cards sent in the post. It wouldn’t hurt to send a text ‘hey thanks for coming to the wedding & for your generous gift’. It takes seconds.

If someone sent me a birthday present or cash I’d thank them for it by text/phone/face to face.

I went to my friend’s wedding, gave them cash in a cars, never heard a peep, it’s now been a year. I’m not particularly bothered as I didn’t do it for the thanks but it does highlight that people simply have different views on this.

You need to contact your friend as if you are miffed so too will others be miffed.
Ask her if she received the gift - it could jog her memory to send thank yous - either electronically or via snail mail.

Usually one of the jobs of the bridesmaids is to collate a list of gifts and givers so to make thank yous easier..

No - they’re polite. Something you could learn from.
When you receive a gift, you say “thank you.”
It isn’t rocket science.

Exactly, it’s incredibly rude, a nice text would be fine. Next time I had contact I’d ask her what she bought with it, see what her response is.

I’ve had five or six thank you cards by snail mail this year. The youngest to send one is 25. It’s not true that nobody does this anymore.

Well, I just received a wee thank you card in the post, yes, the post. I attended a wedding in Early September and got sent the card last week. The couple are 30, I am 49 and we live in Scotland. So, it is still a "thing" to thank people for attendance/gift.

Thank you for sharing… let me reciprocate

https://www.candacesmithetiquette.com/traditional-manners.html

Some Things Never ChangeKnowing the standard traditional manners and practicing your ability to adapt them to individual situations gives you great confidence. You have the security of knowing that each of these are an expression of politeness and kindness. By putting them into action, you are also helping others.

• Greeting, introducing and welcoming others.
• And initiating conversations that invite participation and inclusion.
• Lending a helping hand when you can.
• Holding a door for someone whose arms are full, or offering your seat in the restaurant waiting area.
• Letting others go first.
• Whether walking on a crowded sidewalk, standing in the grocery line, or at a four-way stop.
• Mindfully speaking to and about others.
• That’s why we don’t have cell phones on the table, take a call during dinner, are rude or sarcastic about someone’s appearance, gossip, or talk over someone.
• Expressing gratitude and appreciation.
• Thus, a thank you note is a tradition that will have a long shelf life!
• Respecting the privacy, property, and the traditions of others.
• Never take something that doesn't belong to you, but show interest the holiday traditions of other cultures.
• And yes, eating politely.
• Chewing with your mouth closed and not too full, and keeping your table tools to yourself is always mindful.

Bold of you to comment on someone else's mental abilities when you find the concept of a thank you card too complicated to grasp.

I’ve had a thank you card for every wedding I’ve been to and an every new baby gift I’ve sent over the last few years. It’s definitely abnormal not to send a personalised thank you in my circles, however you get 6-12 months to do it so I wouldn’t give up on it yet. We even sent thank you cards to guests who didn’t provide a gift to thank them for coming.