Anyone have a nice passive aggressive reply to this rudeness?

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Last sent a text on Thursday arranging for collection of an item I'm selling. Have had various texts over the course of the week. Item value is £32 if relevant.

Last text them on Thursday to say text me and I'll send directions. (This photo shows a Google message thread, I don't have their phone number) ... Just walked in the kitchen and these ping through.... am slightly hungry, so feel a bit hangry. It's also Friday and I'm rushing to visit a friend in a minute. Absolutely want to say "don't bother - you rude twat". . As I can't stand the ??? After them not getting an immediate reply. However, I'd prefer a passive aggressive reply if anyone got any smart ones?
Unfortunately I've already replied with a no problem - postcode attached, see you Sunday, but would also quite fancy pulling them up on their rudeness. . Talk me off the ledge? ... if relevant I don't need the £32 but would be nice to get rid of the item. Thoughts? Am I being an unreasonable hangry person?

That's something I would do ( send the question mark after if I had forgotten it).

yes that’s fine. Price is now £36 😊

I have to say that I’m with you, people who follow up a message with a question mark after twenty minutes irritate me but I would step back and not engage with it.

Have you already replied after the ? ? If not, you could just reply "sorry, was just getting ready/dinner...!" If you have, I'd just leave it and tell myself they forgot the ? but leave full judgement for around 3pm Sunday😉

He forgot the ?
read it back later and noticed and added it

I sometimes do this if I forget the ? in a question. I hadn't thought it might be interpreted as me hassling someone... It has always been an effort to fix my missing punctuation.

Assuming they didn't forget the punctuation, it's a bit pushy but not worth getting wound up over. What really annoys me is the people who just say 'post code' and 'door number' without any pleasantries at all. I've been selling things for the last 18 months due to a bereavement, and it absolutely does my head in.

send a random ? mark in about an hour

I think they’ve just added the ? because they forgot it in first text. It’s a question.

See I think it's fucking rude. My ds used to do it, he doesn't now because the answer he got was not passive in any way. As a pp said who checks punctuation after they've sent a message?

Well, yeah, it does come across as a bit rude but people often need to make plans for their time.

I've messaged people before saying I'll come and get something at a specified time and then waited a day for a reply. But I might need to make plans to do something else if the answer is going to be no, so waiting ages for a reply (or getting no reply) can stuff up making alternative plans for my day.

Best policy is to respond as soon as possible. Especially if you want their money.

I get this all the time on my business page. I usually ask them to resend the message because for some reason it came through just as a load of questions marks and I'm sure that's not what they intended to send. I also always happen to be fully booked when people like this contact me as I know they'll be difficult.

I would. My first thought upon seeing it was, "they've obviously just forgotten the question mark".

Edit: that was in reply to @Ffsmakeitstop

I think they just sent the first part and forgot to put the question mark, so they've added it after...

Sorry, didn't read the whole thread....

Honestly OP I think the same because it’s something I would do… 🫣
they probably forgot the question mark and added it on… because the tone of the message seemed very polite to me

I don’t think he was correcting his punctuation.

They also forgot to include the word please so (1) that’s a bit rude and (2) then sending the question mark is clearly a chaser so also kind of rude. I would not be impressed.

Oh no! Sometimes I do that, because I've forgotten the question mark! Now I know it's seen as passive aggressive, I'm never doing that again 🙈

He was just bumping the message for a reply, in the same way people bump threads.

If you think he's rude then you think he's rude, but why not own it?

Blaming being 'hangry' is almost as bad as women blaming hormones.

You're entitled to your feelings, no need to excuse them.

He should have said “would you kindly”.

polite requests “could you”, “would you” don’t need a question mark at the end btw.

I don't think that's rude.

If it was a gentle nudge, what's wrong with that? They may have been rushing about themselves and trying to organise what they were doing on Sunday.

I think you need to calm down.

I've had these before. It's like people expect you to be on your phone asap if they message, not like you have a life or anything. Unfortunately facebook selling is a nightmare. Just take their money and move on though.

it is text speak for 'why haven't you replied to me yet'... and drives me fucking nuts.

Some folk do it at work, our live chat response time is 'within an hour' and users KNOW this, they're told it in the auto responder message.

So I get messages with:

'Heres a stupid question I could actually google/isn't your remit anyway?'

3 minutes later:

??

3 minutes later:

??

If it is a really dumb one with something they could google/isn't my remit, I will actually say' So sorry for the delay, let me google that for you'... and hope they feel a bit thick!

I do also think some people are in the habit of doing this after a message without truly realising just how fucking irritating it actually is. They do mean to nag for a response, but they don't realise how rude it is!

If I thought they were being rude, I probably would have replied by apologising profusely for not having replied before because:
I had been in a car accident
I was in hospital
I was at a wedding/funeral
I was giving birth
I was stuck on the loo with a basin on my lap having a bad bout of D&V
or something equally catastrophic