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Is this normal?

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jollyhols · 13/10/2023 11:11

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Obviously I'm aware of how women's cycles work. And I believe this is 100% hormonal. But the extent that I'm feeling these 'feelings'^^ is becoming quite disturbing.

Im 37 and have regular cycles. At the end of my period I feel great. Motivated, happy. A week or so later at ovulation time I feel super horny and attracted/loving towards dh. Then when that's passed I'll have a week of relative calm but in the week leading up to my period I feel like hell. So angry, so awful to dh. I'm not exaggerating when I say that every month I consider divorcing him at this time because of how much he irritates me. Very little patience, can just about hold it together at work but I genuinely feel so angry, low and depressed. Then a couple of weeks later I'll wonder how I ever could have thought such things.

I realise this is all to do with my cycle and I've probably always had these feelings to some extent. But they are so intense over the last year it's becoming hard to deal with. Recently I made the mistake of going out with friends during my angry week as dh calls it. I just didn't enjoy it, everything irritated me and the next day I had a hangover to boot. I haven't felt so bad mentally in a long time as I did that day. It was vile.

Could it be related to my age? Does anyone else suffer from such massive mood changes throughout the month?

OP posts:
angiec89 · 13/10/2023 11:43

jollyhols · 13/10/2023 11:11

Posting for traffic. Nc but long term poster etc etc.

Obviously I'm aware of how women's cycles work. And I believe this is 100% hormonal. But the extent that I'm feeling these 'feelings'^^ is becoming quite disturbing.

Im 37 and have regular cycles. At the end of my period I feel great. Motivated, happy. A week or so later at ovulation time I feel super horny and attracted/loving towards dh. Then when that's passed I'll have a week of relative calm but in the week leading up to my period I feel like hell. So angry, so awful to dh. I'm not exaggerating when I say that every month I consider divorcing him at this time because of how much he irritates me. Very little patience, can just about hold it together at work but I genuinely feel so angry, low and depressed. Then a couple of weeks later I'll wonder how I ever could have thought such things.

I realise this is all to do with my cycle and I've probably always had these feelings to some extent. But they are so intense over the last year it's becoming hard to deal with. Recently I made the mistake of going out with friends during my angry week as dh calls it. I just didn't enjoy it, everything irritated me and the next day I had a hangover to boot. I haven't felt so bad mentally in a long time as I did that day. It was vile.

Could it be related to my age? Does anyone else suffer from such massive mood changes throughout the month?

This is something I also notice about myself, though not quite to that extent. My moods are very variable based on the period in my cycle. I'm in my 30s, if that helps

Connected1 · 13/10/2023 11:46

Not me, but I remember a friend who every month was telling me "I'm leaving him, it's serious this time" then a week later she'd realise it was her PMT talking. Mind you, they did split up in the end. Maybe he couldn't take it any more!

Outnumbered99 · 13/10/2023 11:48

Yes OP, I am the same, and my lows are getting lower every single month. Combined with a plethora of other symptoms I am blaming peri-menopause and trying to treat as such, hoping for some improvement.

SBHon · 13/10/2023 11:50

Have you heard of PMDD? It sounds like some of your symptoms fit that.

SM4713 · 13/10/2023 11:54

OP- have the symptoms got worse, or have you always had a bad week since your periods started? If its new, it might be peri? I'm assuming you aren't taking any hormonal contraception? I'd speak to your GP or even a family planning clinic, because maybe a hormonal contraception (or other med) would ease your symptoms.

Helenahandkart · 13/10/2023 11:58

I was the same. My premenstrual fury with my DH got worse and worse. Now I’m fully in perimenopause and taking HRT and it doesn’t happen any more.
It might be worth looking at some supplements that help with PMT. I can’t remember which ones I took now but they definitely helped a bit.

Mrsjayy · 13/10/2023 11:58

SBHon · 13/10/2023 11:50

Have you heard of PMDD? It sounds like some of your symptoms fit that.

Oh I had this it was horrific and got worse I never got a cure just managed it but my cycle was really intense, I had a reasonable menopause it wasn't as bad as some, anyway op it is worth speaking to your Gp

Mrsjayy · 13/10/2023 12:18

My younger cousin is also on hrt for perimenopause,I wasn't offered hrt till my late 40s.

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jollyhols · 13/10/2023 12:20

SM4713 · 13/10/2023 11:54

OP- have the symptoms got worse, or have you always had a bad week since your periods started? If its new, it might be peri? I'm assuming you aren't taking any hormonal contraception? I'd speak to your GP or even a family planning clinic, because maybe a hormonal contraception (or other med) would ease your symptoms.

I feel like it's got worse over the last year. Before then I maybe would feel a bit irritable on the run up to my period but the feeling has magnified. I haven't been on hormonal contraception for years but unsurprisingly I never suffered with this when I was on it.

I wondered about peri.

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Didimum · 13/10/2023 12:22

I go through a similar cycle of emotions, and it has exacerbated the later I get into my 30s. A good few of my friends are experiencing the same, so it seems is very common. I haven't explored a medical option yet (I find it generally reasonable to cope with). Exercise during the difficult portion can help a great deal.

ExtinguishTheLight · 13/10/2023 12:24

I used to get like this every time. Men would just piss me off as a totality.

Weirdly, it stopped now I've had my coil out - but it was a copper coil so shouldn't have affected my hormones.

Imenti · 13/10/2023 12:44

SBHon · 13/10/2023 11:50

Have you heard of PMDD? It sounds like some of your symptoms fit that.

Absolutely agree with this, my best friend has just been diagnosed with PMDD and has been prescribed something herbal to try and level out her hormones. As soon as her period arrives she is fine but the week leading up to it is absolutely dreadful, she's having intrusive thoughts and her anxiety is through the roof.

Please get down to the GP, there might be something that can help.

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