I have an 8 month old, and am at home with her. Two freinds who I have seen v little of in recent months cos theyve been back at work, have just had their 2nd babies. Whilst they were back at work any time I did hear of them it was all, oh, so busy, so hard working, up at five, my career, our minibreak, blah blah me, with a brief pause to insinuate that I am a lazy cow for not going back to work. And I dont think I have had so much as a text from either of them since xmas. But now....They and their husbands seem to be under the delusion that I do nothing all day and should be round theirs non stop now helping out. I have been round but I amn non stop busy with my own things!! Friends visiting from the uk,(I live in irland), my baby, grocery shopping, baby groups, making dinner, diy, killing recently discovered mice....I feel resentful that I was evidently so unimportant before in my SAHM way in our crappy rented house and dull budgety ways while they are so busy with their currently much richer lifestyle, and that they seem to think I can drop everything to be at their beck and call. I want to help out, but they do have families here, and I am getting the picture with one couple , not the other as much to be fair, that they are not even getting their mums to help out cos their mums are busy, whereas I am apparently not. I have been feeling guilty all week about not being able to do as much as they wanted cos DD has had a howling cold and I felt it was too risky for their baby with mines infection for me to go over there mid week. I think they are probably pissed off with me. But I dont think thats fair. I think even DH doesnt realize how long everything takes with DD, eg it just took me 2 hrs to do supermarket with feeding and nappies and bloody trolleys. Im not a bollocking lady of leisure.
AIBU? Or even mean?