8 month old doesn't sleep

[sleepdeprivedma]

Posting here for traffic as I've had an awful day with my baby.
I posted this last night in sleep at like 2am but I didn't get any replies.

I honestly don't know what to do anymore 4 nights in a row now I haven't slept really at all 1-2 hours max as my 8 month old is up all night he's not hungry he's not needing nappy change he's absolutely fine but he's just away kinda moaning. I dunno if it's teeth or developmental but I am
Shattered and I don't know what to do I solo parent Monday - Friday as my husband works away but I dunno how much more I can take tonight isn't looking any better. I'm drained

It's half 10 and he's been awake twice already I don't think tonight is gonna be any better 😭🤦‍♀️ if I don't try laugh I'll cry

Hi OP,

My baby (who I will say upfront has always been a pretty decent sleeper) went through an awful phase at 8m old and I snapped.

Here are some things which helped:

1. we got a sleep trainer. It was £300 for 4 weeks of support. Best money I’ve ever spent in terms of advice and support, but I fully appreciate it’s a privilege to have that cash to blow
2. pre sleep trainer, we taught self settling using some of the techniques in the book “The Sleep Guide” by Lucy Wolfe.
3. we worked hard at establishing a schedule. So set nap times and durations and a set bedtime with a consistent bedtime routine. Good day sleep does really help with good night sleep
4. we stopped going out. Gone were the days of napping in the pram, we fixed all naps to be in the cot at home. And we didn’t change that until the sleep was at a solid consistent stage. Now we do some in the car if we’re going somewhere, else all outings are planned around napping at home. It can be super frustrating but IMO it’s worth it for the good sleep
5. Anbesol - if there’s a chance it’s teething pain, we have found that the best pain relief is this, it has worked so well for us when calpol and ibuprofen weren’t making a difference
6. moving baby, when possible, into own room. I know this is a HUGE step but my goodness my baby slept soooo much better when in their own room. It was stressful moving him over for the first few days but after that it made a world of difference
7. Get some help. You’re effectively a solo parent. What’s your support network like? If you don’t have a huge amount of people around you to help (perhaps watch baby for a few hours while you get some rest, could you consider putting them into a childminder or nursery for one day a week? Or a half day? I know it’s expensive but I reckon it’s cheaper than the cost of therapy post breakdown from lack of sleep

How did you get on last night?
If co-sleeping helps you, when your partner is home can he sleep in a different room to allow you to continue?
Or try a different set up… My mattress is on the floor with a single mattress on the other side of it that my partner sleeps in. Baby in bed with me in the middle of us!
I hope you can get some help in the day, you must be exhausted x

He slept in bed with me
Slightly better but I think he is teething to.

My partner is home tonight we don't have a bed in a spare room so only option would
Be the couch unfortunately

Teething is hard! All the pain relief stuff can really help but ultimately I think they just want you close and comfort. Which is understandable but so hard sometimes!
I hope your partner is able to take the baby for a few hours this weekend and you can get back to bed!
Take care of yourself x