AIBU to invite my (adult) family to my sons children’s party?

[Sophie2525]

I’m doing DS (3 years old) a kids party, boring for adults i’m sure. However, my family are very close to DS, I knew they wanted to come along to see him have fun and meet all his friends. DH is currently annoyed with me for inviting them, as it’s a kids party. He made a comment saying I didn’t give him a chance to invite his family, which is a complete lie, I definitely did a few months ago and his response was “they won’t come”.

His family don’t drive and live an hour away, I wouldn’t expect them to travel for a kids party. I don’t understand why he’s annoyed me? He says because it’s a kids party, but why would that bother him, DS will have all his favourite people around for his celebration!

To add I’m only inviting my parents and sisters (not grandparents etc)

Is it a party in your house or at a venue?

It’s a venue

Why shouldn't they come? They are family and it's a celebration! Yanbu

To be honest I think he’s annoyed my family always make the effort but his don’t. But that’s not my fault and it’s not about that, it’s about DS having a fun day

If he wants to invite his family then he should contact them with the details. Presumably he's known about this party since you booked it so could have issued an invite before now.

Is he just being grumpy because he's got to deal with his in-laws at an event where he'd been expecting to just wrangle a lot of small excited children? Some people compartmentalise their social interactions and find it difficult to combine two types of event. Whatever it is, he's being unreasonable and needs to get over it, but if this was dh I'd cut him a bit of slack because I'd understand why it was wigging him out.

He’s known for months but made the decision not to invite them as they won’t come, which is fine, they live far away and don’t drive. But I don’t see why my sisters and parents coming is triggering him

Also he gets on well with my family, they are very easy going, I don’t think it’s them, it’s just the fact his family aren’t coming. Well that’s what I think

Okay now I feel bad DH has apologised, he said he’s just upset that my family always make the effort and his don’t.

That’s better than never apologising, but why wasn’t his anger directed at them in the first place? How did he manage to twist it into your fault?

We invited family to all parties .....until they went school, and from 5 onwards it was class mates.