To feel absolutely terrified now this is becoming real?!

[ideal]

After 3.5 years of TTC, my DH and I are finally about to start our IVF journey.

We've had a really rough time of things, including mid/referrals by the GP, wrong information being advised etc etc and it's felt like a really long and isolating road so far.

Anyway, we are finally there after deciding to find privately as I don't fit the NHS guidelines of 30BMI (I'm 32.4) and we have our consultation on Tuesday next week...!

We were registered with a clinic closer to home but because of the strict NHS guidelines we have decided to go to a different one a little further afield that will accept my BMI for the private finding option.

I just feel so scared yet delighted that this is becoming real and actually happening! It's been such a hard few years.

BUT

I keep finding myself feeling massively overwhelmed every so often and doubting myself

I was you 5 years ago and it worked out on the first try, fingers crossed for you 💐🤞 good luck x

I have no experience of this.. but l just want to wish you all the very very best and good luck.
I will be praying for you.
Please keep us informed...

Do it. In between appointments put it out if your mind or it will overtake your life. Good luck. X

Amazing! You wouldn't be human if you weren't a little bit scared & overwhelmed. Speaking from a health and fitness background, BMI is an outdated system that really doesn't mean much at all. However being as fit and healthy as you can be will obviously help you through this entire process, pregnancy, labour & postnatal. What exactly is worrying you the most?

Thank you so much for the kind messages already. I've never had anyone tell me they will be praying for me before. That is so touching, it's bought tears to my eyes! Thank you so much.

I'm sorry my message has come across super rambly. I think I've got so much in my mind I'm trying to get out, reading back I realise it doesn't make much sense!

I had gastric sleeve surgery 2.5 years ago to try and aid natural conception, which sadly didn't happen. But I have now lost 9.5 stone so I feel so so much healthier! I do have lots of loose skin though, which is unfortunately why I've still got a higher BMI. The NHS sadly won't / refuse to take the loose skin into consideration with the BMI check, so I am having to self fund.

The fertility issues sadly lie with my husband, he has a low concentration of sperm. I have been thoroughly checked over several times and given the all clear, good overall health and egg reserve.

We want this so, so much.

@ideal case in point why BMI is such a crock well done on making such a positive life change though that's amazing. I'm sending lots of positive vibes!