My mum asking for money

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I’m getting my home re-mortgaged (married with 3 kids). I haven’t even got the money yet but my mum phoned me up today asking if I can lend her some money. I didn’t respond I just said I’ve got things to do.

just for context she has done nothing for me my entire life. She never shows me any love or attention, I was severely neglected in my childhood.

Don’t respond. Just ignore the request and if she keeps asking it’s a flat no. You’ve taken out a very expensive long term loan for reasons that concern you not to pay her expenses.

I assume you are doing it for a reason and the money is spoken for. So just say no it’s all accounted fOr

and stop talking to her or anyone who might talk to her about your financial matters

Do not discuss your finances with a mother who neglected you. She clearly has only her own interests at heart.

Say sorry you can’t lend her money as you need it for therapy for all the stuff you suffered in childhood

Please do not do it. I'm sure she'll probably try emotional blackmail or something but you need to be strong. Can you ask anyone to be a support to you when/if she tries again? So much easier to keep on track when you've told someone else or they're there with you

How does she know about the remortgage?
Tell her no that the money is accounted for already.
You owe her nothing.

Does she know about the remortgage? If yes how come? If she doesn't, ignore all pleas for money, same if she does know.

I'd give her a tenner for a take away maybe. Just for the laughs. The nerve of her.

Did you tell her?

Next time she brings it up just say, "I can't lend you any money. Please don't ask me again."

If she kicks off about it or asks you again, end the conversation and walk away.

By the sounds of it you need to put as much distance between you and her as you can. She sounds like a horrible mother and a toxic person.

Say No.

Why does she want the money? How is she going to repay it?

It sounds like you have told her you are coming in to some money. I'd just say you've decided not to go through with it and leave it at that. And never discuss your finances again.

Yes this sounds very sensible.

Just say no. Prioritise your own family’s security.

The diet of less information op....

Oh goodness just say there's no spare money - don't forget you'll be paying interest too in anything you give her for the length of the mortgage

Tell her to do one, the cheeky bitch. What kind of terrible parent borrows money off their own child?