Was teacher being unreasonable?

[Harvest123]

This isn't my AIBU it's my Dsis. I'm a bit torn about what I think so seeing what others think?

Dsis is looking at primary schools atm. She looked at one a few days ago. The teacher said to stay behind if people had questions and she went around to each person to answer their questions. My Dsis was last and had a lady before her speaking to the teacher. Dsis said the lady was bitching to the teacher about another person and the teacher was joining in and bitching back. Dsis said she was waiting ages so so in the end started walking off and the teacher said oh do you not have any questions. My Dsis walked off and said no.

Dsis put on a loc group asking for recommendations for local schools as she was not impressed with this particular school. In the comments she told someone what had happened with the teacher bitching. She then received an email from the headteacher saying they had asked the local page to take her post down but they haven't yet and they suggest she removes the post immediately.

I mean the teacher was unprofessional and shouldn't have done what they did. Also I believe you have the right to speak freely if its the truth. And I do feel the headteacher was a bit rude to Dsis. However I'm not sure Dsis should have included the part about the teacher on the page. So what do others think? 9

Oh come on, the difference between a review of a meal in a resteraunt and one of a school is a vastly different thing. This was an overhead conversation. Your sister has absolutely no idea about the context of that chat - she could have stayed and spoken with the teacher, she could have emailed the head. She is basing her recommendation of a school on that short interaction and has no idea of the standards of teaching provided. There was no need to take to social media without at least speaking with the school about her concerns first. They had no opportunity to apologise or to try and address the situation with the teacher. It just smacks of wanting something to post for likes rather than any real concerns about the school.

For me, posting things on a local facebook page is not how I choose to address issues, particularly ones as important as what school my four year old should go to.

It's sad people can't talk honestly about an experience with a teacher for fear of tainting their child school experience. But that's the reality.

I do think the teacher was unprofessional. Teacher was representing the school and should have been on best behaviour. The fact they got gossipy about a parent in that situation is concerning isn't it? What do they say when there are no other parent witnesses?!

That said if not have put it on social media. I've had a very bad experience with a school and never put it in SM. However whenever I saw posts asking people opinion on the school I direct message and say they shit with SEND my experience was xyz. I've moved now so not in local groups but it used to infuriate me seeing everyone publicly saying great school when I knew a group of very unhappy parents. For this reason I don't tent to trust school reviews on SM.

Sure it's your "sister"...

Either way, the person doing this is a complete knob.

Your sister needs to be 100% sure she was correct in what she said. Stuff like that would be taken on by county/academy lawyers here. Potentially damaging the school’s reputation and that of the teacher. They don’t need to be named - people will be able to identify them.