Would this have bothered you?

[Nanny0gg]

Not my business really, but...

At the weekend I was at an attraction. As always, the queue for the women's toilets was long but there was no queue for the men's (which for some reason had its main door open)

A father had been to the loo and come out and his daughter (aged 10-ish I suppose) was about 6th in the queue for the women's loo

He started trying to persuade her to use the men's, saying that there were cubicles, it was empty, no-one would see her etc

She was adamant that she didn't want to go in there and would wait. He clearly didn't want to wait and kept on. She kept saying No and I don't want to.

In the end he grabbed her hand and pulled her in there - all the women in the queue obviously aware of the situation

I think he was wrong, she was embarrassed and they didn't know if more men would turn up while she was in there. They didn't appear to be in a rush for anything, he just didn't want to wait and was absolutely not going to take any notice of her.

What do you think?

YABU - he was absolutely fine to take her in the men's
YANBU - she should be listened to in that sort of situation

It should have been the girl's decision.

That's horrible, what a dick

He's a dick

On the surface of it, this looks wrong. But I'm a little heistant here. As many posters will know, sometimes children don't tell you they want a wee until the very last minute. Might it had been possible that the alternative would have been the girl wetting herself?

Provided she was old enough to know that she could hold it, she should have been allowed to wait.

I'd probably have let her go in front of me tbh.

Holding wee in can be harmful.

He did the right thing. He took her to the toilet and was there to make sure nothing untoward happened to her.

It's not great but I can't get worked up about it either or imagine being so bothered by it that I would post about it online a week later?

Children need adults to make decisions for them. If it had been a boy of the same age insisting to his mum that he wanted to go into a men’s public toilet on his own, rather than to the women’s with his mum, from previous threads on such I doubt many MN mums would have allowed him to make his own choice.

I don't know many 10 year old boys that use the women's loo