Hate living on housing estate

[Ontheclifftop]

I'm about to move from the housing estate where I've lived for 15 years. I have some lovely neighbours but I'm just sick of anti social behaviour from teens and young adults; a minority of badly parented kids annoying everyone; selfish people who don't care about anyone else and won't get involved in trying to sort out various issues that affect them as much as anyone else and keep leaving everything to the same few people. I have two friends who also moved from large housing estates because of the same type of thing.

I know problems occur everywhere, but when you're on an estate with hundreds of other people they just happen more frequently.

Has anyone else just got sick of estate living and moved out. I'm moving into a smaller house with a much smaller garden, but it's worth it to me.

Cant afford to just yet but its my hope for the not too distant future

You are not wrong, all the things you have listed are a problem for me as well. Im hoping in the next few years to get out of this hellhole!

I grew up on a large estate in South London and it was horrible. I left as soon as I could.

When I bought a flat we bought an ex-LA flat in a small low-rise block of 16 flats - about 50/50 owned/LA tenants. It was wonderful. Mostly families, big rooms, outside space that was well maintained.

Area and size are the biggest factors determining what it’s like living on an estate in my experience.

Yep. Same here.

Children's/teen's behaviour is awful now and I'm fed up of it.

We are actively looking at moving in the near future.

We moved from one estate to another in two different towns.
The first we were close enough to the primary to hear the playground in the middle of the day and there was a few shops on the next road. There were lots of young kids. We often struggled to drive out of and into our road as young kids put football goals in the road. The kids were obnoxious and off and got into a huff if asked to play on their drives or in their gardens rather than the middle of the road.

Our new estate doesn't have a school on the estate nor shops but both are a short walk away if you head in the direction of the town. This means we don't get the same congregation of children after school times. The kids are much better about playing in their gardens or drive. Things like riding their bikes are up and down the roads but if they have remote control cars out they use the foot paths whereas in the old place it would be in the road.

We moved to a cheaper area and definitely find that people and children are friendly and come across less entitled.

Fortunately I don't have this problem. I live in a council flat in central London and tho it's part of a group of estates it isn't that bad which is rare not much crime here apart from youths hanging about etc and it's quite family orientated... I'm fortunate that I have never lived in really really deprived areas. Hope you get to move soon OP!

I live on a horrible one too. I spend my life reporting fly tipping. Direct neighbours are skanky twats. The layout is poor too, no view and not enough light in the homes.
I hope I'll be able to move in about 5yrs.

Do you mean a council estate, or a new-build type housing estate?

I grew up on a (then) new build estate and it was wonderful as a child - so many other children to play with, and we could play out because there was no through traffic. Now I live on a street in London and DS(8) can't play out or just run out to knock on his friends' doors, and I feel he is missing out.

It was a new build when I moved in. It wasn't so bad then because most of the children were babies and toddlers. But as they years went on some of them turned into rude, badly behaved children and obnoxious teens. We have gangs hanging around at night smoking weed and making a racket; children screaming, trespassing and damaging communal property; and of course a cohort of parents who go mad if anyone complains about or tells off one of their children.
There's just such an entitled atmosphere around some of the families living here. The teenagers laugh, answer back or tell people to fuck off; the children either give cheek or become really annoyed and frustrated if they're told they can't play somewhere or they're making too much noise; and some of the adults are unbelievably rude and dismissive of complaints or requests to keep noise down.

Obviously they're not all like that, but enough are to just create an environment I don't want to live in anymore.

Also, anytime there's a meeting to sort something out or a litter picking session or a visit from the local community police to discuss issues it's the same few people from the estate showing up. Plenty of moaning and complaining on the neighbourhood WhatsApp group, but very little will to actually do something to improve matters.

I've just had enough, really.

I live on a modern estate for the last 3 years and we’re hoping to attempt a move in a year. We have neighbours opposite, to one side, AND at the back of us who spend six months of the year having excessively loud, intoxicated parties with thumping bass in gardens, sometimes congregating at the front. So many people bought lockdown dogs which are now neglected and left to bark in gardens all day, it’s like living in bloody kennels. A guy across the road is really aggressive and rude all the time, his wife is constantly screaming at their children starting from 7am. It’s a shame because we’ve invested a lot here and the house is beautiful, but the impact on us mentally is taking too much of a toll.

Its not the place its the people.

OP is it mostly (or all) houses with gardens? I'm trying to picture the set up.

It's a mix of houses with gardens, duplexes and apartments. It also has a communal green, which can be a pain in Summer and also at night time with teenagers hanging around.

I agree it's the people. But in a large housing estate you have a lot of people living in close proximity. So if even 20 percent of those people are rude, selfish or poor parents it can have a heavy impact.

OP I think part of the problem is as you say, sheer numbers.

it's difficult though because these days, people are so effing noisy and think it's okay to be noisy everywhere. I'm in flats but was saying to my sister, I feel like you can't live anywhere without needing earplugs.

I am totally with you. We have the same problem, noisy kids, objectionable teenagers and an influx of dogs since Covid. It has become so intolerable for me that we put our house on the market and fortunately sold in 2 weeks. We have found a small bungalow in the country and I cannot wait to go.

Yes mate totally had enough were i live.
48 years on Frankley estate in south bham.
It's like the African slums now.
The people the local council have put on here are complete trash.
No respect,flytipping every day.
And nothing gets done.
It's a complete he'll hole.

Well this is the result of the usual suspects whining that social housing should only be for the most desperate. This is simply ppl getting what they wished for!

I live on estate and have no issues at all! It's not the biggest compared to some of them around here and it is more expensive compared to the others too but we have a mix of semis, detached, maisonettes and 3 small blocks of flats plus a small kids park. I'm pretty sure there are some of the people live in houses owned by social housing but I honestly couldn't tell you who, I'm just going by the fact that there seems to be some on every estate.

We've been here 11 years now since before we had our eldest who is now 10. Quite a few kids of his age so everyone plays together including those a bit older and a bit younger. It's quiet, everyone is lovely and I don't want to move.

I think the size helps, it's not too small but not too big so if you go about causing problems people will know about it.

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