WARNING THIS IS A PRIVILEGED POST
I'm in the middle of my second degree in a vocational, placement based subject.
I don't know why this is a realisation now but I'm getting ten times more out of my degree compared to my first degree, which I did at 19.
Number one, I enjoy the subject BECAUSE I know what I want to achieve afterwards. It is leading to a job which I couldn't do without the qualification. I really enjoyed my first humanities degree but just enjoying the subject isn't always enough, I went in with no clue about what I wanted to do as a career, no idea that it wouldn't actually make me more employable etc.
Number two, I understand that coursework is what you put into it. Reading widely and taking the subject to places which interest you, thinking about your experiences, applying it to your life, I can only do this as a person who has worked in many different jobs and has had first hand experience of being a patient, carer, parent, victim, UC recipient. I had no life experience at 19! Now I can focus, think both about my experience but also that of others, I'm getting way better grades compared to when I was a 19 year old writing the same essay on Jane Eyre and feminism which nearly every other person in the class wrote.
Number three, I know how lucky I am to do this and to have a bursary. I know how much this costs and so I would never think about missing a lecture or seminar unless I couldn't go. Missed loads during my first degree due to just wanting to sleep, not even doing fun stuff, just being bad at time management, missing the bus, staying to watch Americas next top model!
I think a lot of young people are similar to me. They go to uni because it's what's expected, because they don't know what else to do, because they still feel like a kid. The huge tuition fees, loans, you only get those once!! If you mess it up or don't make the most of it, you might not get a shot at another degree.
If only there was another way of giving young people that independence of being able to move away from home, live in accommodation with other people their age, increase their own knowledge of budgeting/ being responsible but without the huge student debt.
I think part of the problem with student MH is that some of our children are infantilised for much longer these days due to the modern world (lifts to secondary, don't have jobs, aren't financially responsible for much, don't have to get public transport because there isn't any or they drive) but we still expect them to adapt to uni life in the same way that people did in the 70's!
A family friends son started this year, he had no life experience, never worked, didn't have any direct debits, couldn't get buses on his own, got lost walking around, and now he's in a shared house hundreds of miles away and struggling, obviously!
Your children might be very mature and responsible but some are not mentally ready, I wasn't. I didn't understand what an opportunity university was and although I did ok, I sort of always new that I would work in a cafe afterwards, as it was my only experience of a work place.
Not surprisingly many, not all, of the younger students on my course are already not sure that they want to do the job which we are going to qualify for, and I completely get that. Not many dream of working in social care at 23. One minute you're a carefree eighteen year old doing shots and the next minute you're in court giving evidence for a child protection case. I think there are only a few twenty year olds who could adapt like that, most have direct experience or are mature due to their life experiences (and I have met a lot of these types).
Would love to hear your thoughts?