To think my DD is being left out - reception

[Autumnleavesx]

My DD is in reception and I’m sure she’s being left out by the teacher. They gives updates about what they’re doing as a class and put photos on for all the parents to see and she’s rarely on the photos. Other children have been getting certificates on a Friday in assembly and certificates for having the most awards on class dojo (reward system). It seems to be the same children getting all the certificates and praise on the app. Today it was posted on there that all children were sent home with their proofs from their recent school photos but I checked DDs bag and she hasn’t been sent home with hers so feel like she was forgotten

she is very bright and only turned 4 in August and seems to have settled well and enjoys going into class, she gets herself ready in the mornings and is happy to go in but I feel like she isn’t being involved.

Aibu to think this?

They've only been in school 3 weeks, there's no way 30 children can receive certificates in that time. It'll even out over the year. DS isn't always in photos, he won't stand still for a camera and there are some children in his class who are clearly better trained and stand nicely, smile etc.
Have you got a parents' WhatsApp group? We were told ours would get their phonics books on a certain day, DS didn't have one, quick message to the group revealed most of them hadn't got them yet.
I doubt any reception teacher is deliberately excluding a 4 year old.

She’s only just started school. You’re massively overreacting.

There hasn’t been enough time for that many children to get certificates
It’s hard getting some children in pictures
Maybe several school pictures were forgotten

Relax. Give it some time.

Well she's been missed out of the class photo forms at least!
You'll have to mention to them how you're feeling. Yes teachers are overworked etc, etc. But it's the parents who go in and have a word, whos children never get overlooked. Sitting at home and getting sad/stewing about it won't help.
You don't need to go in complaining. Just mention the missing proofs and say "I sometimes wonder if DD is in another class, because she's never on any photos"
I wouldn't worry too much about certificates etc It's very early in the school year yet and they are meaningless

Make your voice heard to the teacher.

Give her a heads up, that's you've noticed certain things....it may hopefully nip any potential further behaviour in the bud.

Could it be possible that the child she plays with most is not allowed to be photographed? It’s certainly something that’s happened at our school due to safeguarding reasons. You wouldn’t be told this even if you asked.

If you go into the school and ask the teacher why your child isn’t in the photos then she will probably appear in some, it won’t have been a deliberate oversight - some children like to be photographed and some don’t also there probably would have been many more photos taken than have been shown. The photos shown would be the ones showing the activity clearest, not necessarily the children in it. I have taken some photos on school trips where happy children look like absolute miseries or are from deeply unflattering angles (whilst trying to show the activity) so obviously we don’t share these with parents.

At my child’s school, certificates are given out once a week and, over the course of the term, everyone will get one for something! I assume most schools do this.

The photo proof is a different issue. Assuming she was in school when photos were taken, you will get a proof to order from and the school can track that down if it’s gone astray.

To be fair, our school photo slips were meant to go out yesterday. They didn't. I wasn't teaching my class in the afternoon so it was just forgotten about. They'll get them today.
Have you asked in the parent WhatsApp group?
(My DS is in Year 1 and his teacher forgot to hand them out, too. Quick chat in his class' WhatsApp revealed that it wasn't individual children but my colleague just got busy at the end of the day.)

If you really think it's an issue, talk to the teacher about it. It's not usually a big deal. I uploaded some photos the other day and noticed that I had left a whole table out. Not sure what happened...I'll make sure to include those kids next time.

"potential further behaviour"

Kid is happy about school. If the teacher was mistreating her, that's hardly likely is it?

She's not received a certificate in 3 weeks, like most of the class.
She's not in the photos, something for which there are many legit explanations on this thread.
She didn't get a letter, which can easily happen when putting 30 bits of paper in 30 bags while also supervising 30 children.

My DCs are coming to the end of compulsory schooling. You have so many years of bad school admin ahead of you. Save your energy for the struggles to come. It's usually not personal.

It's great that your DD is already settled in and enjoying going to school. That is all that is all that matters.

My GD always avoids being photographed at school by the teacher. She doesn’t like it.

Thanks everyone for your comments. Unfortunately my DDs school photo proof is missing. Does anyone know if a new one can be sent as I would like to purchase the photos with them being the first school ones

I’m impressed she dresses herself my nearly 5 year old son needs his arms lifting up to put a t shirt on!

Honestly stop worrying about class dojo points, certificates & all that stuff. It's just nonsense & I personally can't stand it.

@Autumnleavesx just email the school and ask for the proofs. It shouldn’t be an issue getting a new one printed.