To want his address..

[Crazygirlz3]

Broke up with my ex 6 months ago we share a DC his never had them over night as i want the address of where his living , i don't think thats a big ask! Aibu?

I don't think yabu wanting to know where your child is overnight but I'm not sure he's obliged to give you it. I may be Wrong though

unless a court orders it you don't have a right to know. but i'm going through the same as ex has moved hundreds of miles away in with another woman and her children. he sees them near their home at his parents but is refusing to share his address.
he can't easily take them at the moment due to the distance but i have said if he wants to take them around the christmas holidays i want the address and the sleeping arrangements. (both children have specific health reasons not to be roughing it at night). i've made it clear if he takes them without telling me those basic things, i will stop any overnight contact (can have them 8-8 each weekend day) and i'd happily let him take me to court on the matter and see if a judge thinks i'm being unreasonable in my request.

Its just so annoying he gives me no money for them just doing it for there sake. He knows my address so i dont see the issue. Thanks for replying :)

my ex even brought new woman and her kids to my house once. well end of the drive as he's not allowed anyway to set foot beyond my property boundary due to previous behaviours from him.
i actually wasn't bothered because i know my house and the area i live in will be a hundred times better than what they are paying for down south but the sheer hypocrisy is staggering!

@nosatellitesignal wow some people have no shame!

I think PPs are right in that EXH is not obliged to tell you .... and although I know it's not the right thing to do, but I would be putting an AirPod in the DC bag if they went anywhere with him

Ideally you’d have a good enough relationship to know his address, or more accurately know where your child is. However if he won’t give it then I don’t think there is much you can do, unless there is some sort of risk or you have a specific reason for wanting to know?

why doesn’t he want you know his address? Suppose at least that means you don’t have to do drop offs/pick ups. If it’s a power play by him ( and there is no safeguarding) I’d probably just ignore it and act like I don’t care.

(I mean you could probably easily find out if you really wanted to).