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To think dating is near as impossible in your late 40s!

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horseyhorsey17 · 11/10/2023 11:40

OK so technically it's not impossible - there is online dating - but jesus, I have dipped my toe in that pool and it is full of sharks! I have been catfished, dick picked, asked to consider being in a throuple and asked outright for sex by men I've never met. There are obviously loads of men on there trying to cheat on their partners. There also seems to be some weird thing going on where people don't actually want to meet up, but seem to be attempting to conduct some sort of online mutual wankship where the entire 'relationship' is a sort of free alternative to the old fashioned sex hotlines.

I can't be arsed to navigate that world so have given up on it. But where else do you meet eligible batchelors these days - or at least men roughly my age with a decent job and their own teeth? And no wife hidden away in the background?! I work from home - used to meet men through work back in my office-working days but that doesn't happen now and my industry is mainly WFH anyway. Pubs round here are full of old drunks (we have a dearth of good pubs). I couldn't think of anything worse than going clubbing. And although I do have interests (am dram, horse riding) they tend to be very female dominated. Help! I'd quite like to go on a date with someone relatively normal!

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nottaotter · 11/10/2023 11:43

Im in my 40's and have never done online dating but hear similar things from friends. I kind of agree with you to be honest and have pretty much given up meeting anyone, I sometimes think it is sheer luck that you meet someone decent. I know lots of lovely men but they are all in relationships, so obvs there are some but just not single!

horseyhorsey17 · 11/10/2023 12:08

Yes same - the only couple of men I'd consider dating are with lovely women! I have been hoping there's a hidden pool of great single men out there, but most of the ones my age seem to be pretty odd - or at least the ones I've met anyway, both bitter about divorce/women and also sharking for sex. Unfortunately I find the former a major turnoff so the latter is out of the question!

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Meandyouandyouandme · 11/10/2023 12:16

I’ve recently met someone through some volunteering I did, I also work from home and can’t face OLD. We’ve known each other 2 months now, unfortunately it’s a LDR but it’s going very nicely so far. I also joined a local walking group and there’s some single men there, but nobody that interests me, so far that is! Try joining groups near you that will have a good proportion of men maybe.

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