To worry when he does this

[Hunnybee3E]

My boyfriend and I are on the rocks and today we were meeting up to discuss our relationship. I had an appointment at 10 and said I'd walk the 5 minutes to his flat after around 11am. He has bad depression and recently has lost his job and moped about in his flat. He's not doing so great and unfortunately I end up being blamed and accused of causing him more stress. He gets quite abusive with his words. He has admitted several times lately he's got nothing and has had enough. Over the weekend he wanted to borrow a sum of money from me which I didn't have. It resulted in him being cold with me. Then he began to get more and more rude until I said i was close to walking away. Yesterday he started the day off normal but started moaning he was sick of messaging. It was him doing the messages so I was quite surprised at the sudden complaint.

So after a heated argument again I told him.i thought he needed some time alone to work out if its me that's the issue or is it life. This resulted in him getting more upset. So I offered to go as planned today. He said he wanted to see me. Anyway I got a message last night saying goodnight with a heart. I've heard nothing from him today at all..he's vanished.

Aibu to panick that sometimes happened. I dont know what to do.

Is there anyone I can call for some.support for myself

I'm all he has.

Cus no-one will put up with his shit except you. Stay strong, block, move on. He’s not your problem

samaritans. A number of National mental
health support charities - they support the family as well as the individual.

who Do you want to talk to. Someone to offload to? Or help with what to do?

GP, arrange talking therapy etc?

I'm confused - so did you not turn up at 11 to his flat as agreed?

You need to put yourself first and walk away from this relationship - he's manipulative. And he's not a positive in your life.

Women’s aid OP.
You need to know this isn’t your fault, nor your responsibility to resolve.

For him - call the police for a welfare check.
For you - call women's aid. You are in an abusive relationship.

Good grief throw this one back. You deserve so much better

Get away from him as fast as you can. This isn't what you want from life. He's not your problem to fix.

Will the police come to my house if I ring for a welfare check

Oh, does he have a parent or sibling you can call?

I would walk away from this relationship

No family who speaks to him? No friends? No job?

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I'd message him saying you will call the police if you don't hear from him in next x minutes. I personally wouldn't call the police until I thought there really was a problem rather than a sulk/lack of communication
For you, maybe try mind or a local mental health support organisation. Or samaritans if immediate support needed. Also talk to friends about it,, they may be able to give you perspective

Women’s Aid, OP
They will help you.

you are being dragged down. He is not your responsibility.

So did you go to his flat at 11 as planned?

Text him to tell him that if he doesn’t reply you’ll be phoning the police.

Give him 20mins then ring them for a welfare check at his property.

Then tell him it’s over and block him.

This ‘relationship’ (if you can even call it that) is going to drag you down.

Relationships are meant to be fun and are meant to add to your life.
They shouldn’t make you feel worried, upset or stressed.

No, they will go to his address.

No. They will go to his house. Or any address you give them that you think he will be at, ie his parents.

This man is not your responsibility. He needs expert, professional care that you cannot provide. By calling the police you are creating the access for him, and it will be up to him to continue with the professional help. You can no longer help him.

Walk away x

Are you ok, op?

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