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To miss shopping with her

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Tiredofwashingsofacovers · 10/10/2023 12:26

Dd started school full time this September. I went shopping this morning after dropping her, felt so strange. In some ways it was amazing, I was so relaxed, could walk around and look at things properly. But I also felt really sad, we won’t ever have our quiet weekdays together going to places when everyone is at work & school. I work Saturdays and know we can go places after school and in the holidays, but it’s different to those quiet days. We used to get a coffee & cake together of cinema & lunch, playground etc. I work part time and see friends sometimes on the other days (the ones who don’t work full time) so i’m good at keeping busy and filling my time, I just miss doing these things with her. I can’t have more children most likely, so that makes it harder. They really were the best days for those years, the hardest in so many ways! But the best, just feel so sad, do I need to get a grip? I haven’t told anyone I feel like this as, all
my friends are happy for the freedom.

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Senseofsomething · 10/10/2023 12:30

I remember this feeling when my one DD started school. It is true, things aren’t the same once you don’t have those days together. But the sad feeling did pass and I now really enjoy looking forward to school holidays and the things we do after school.

Lonejohny · 10/10/2023 12:31

I felt the same.

Tiredofwashingsofacovers · 10/10/2023 12:43

@Lonejohny How long did it last?

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PangramAddict · 10/10/2023 12:49

I still feel like this and my youngest DC is in year 1. Doesn't help that these are the times of days that the mums and kids are out shopping anyway and that's all I see!
It's such nothing time - going round the shops and doing errands - but also so precious, I'm glad I got to have it, and sad it's over.
I try to do other things that I couldn't do with DC, like the gym, or cinema to make the most of it!

IWasFunBeforeMum · 10/10/2023 12:51

Same here - my son started in September and I miss our little days out.

BananaSlug · 10/10/2023 13:03

I feel the same and mines started year 2 😳 not all the time but I do get a bit of sadness sometimes

Lamelie · 10/10/2023 13:07

Aww! I remember that so clearly! However it still happens 25 years on Wink
DC had an exam yesterday- I was waiting outside, then we had lunch and got the bus home before they came in to see Dad and get a lift home.

Tiredofwashingsofacovers · 10/10/2023 13:56

@PangramAddict Yes, that’s what made it worse, lots of mums with pushchairs or walking with their 3/4 year olds
It was all so precious
Some people I know take sickie days but 😬I’m guessing that would be frowned upon!

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Tiredofwashingsofacovers · 10/10/2023 13:57

@Lamelie That’s so nice 😊

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Tiredofwashingsofacovers · 10/10/2023 13:58

@BananaSlug Aww, it’s such an intense ( years and then…just changes

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Tiredofwashingsofacovers · 10/10/2023 13:59

@Senseofsomething I’m looking forward to the hols, but then it’s busy and everyone’s out and people asking for play dates and so on, which is great, it was just a special time

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Tiredofwashingsofacovers · 10/10/2023 13:59

@IWasFunBeforeMum 😞

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cocksstrideintheevening · 10/10/2023 14:00

I miss the days of farm trips, feeding the ducks etc.

DTs are 12 now and on holiday this summer I had a real feel of it's the last holiday where they will want to hang out with us, play in the pool / sea, play Uno at dinner.

There were a lot of moody looking teens around who were either on their phones or with their mates.

Lonejohny · 10/10/2023 16:40

Well I've had another baby now.
But if I wasn't careful I was talking to an empty shopping cart. I was so used to chattering away to her while doing the shopping.

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