So this is most likely a me problem, but I wondered if other people are the same or if I'm just being a killjoy.
I have this one friend who is very reliant on me/needy etc. I am basically her only friend (she is a refugee and my boss is her host, so after I reached out to her last year to show her the area etc she latched onto me as we are a similar age). I've posted here before that she has been what I consider to be quite 'complimentary' to my boyfriend and can get on my nerves a bit, but because I'm all she has I feel some loyalty there.
Before I got pregnant she used to come round every weekend and we would make food and have some drinks. Since I got pregnant I have no interest in doing that whatsoever. I just know it will end up with her and my boyfriend drinking, me being sober, and her getting on my nerves. A couple of months ago we had a falling out in a similar situation where she was over at my house, everyone was drinking, and I think things just annoyed me more so I asked her to leave. Since then she has not been to my house at all, which is very unusual.
She recently asked if I would like to go to an event and I replied no, that its not much fun when you're not drinking. I feel bad because I know that when I'm not seeing her she is just sitting at home on her own all weekend. I feel like if i was to say "i'll go, but none of you can drink either" would just make me look like a complete control freak.
Maybe its just where I am pregnant and my priorities are changing, but I just cba with some people and some things like I used to.
Anyone in the same boat?