Colleague ignoring me?

[Stooduomesj]

I thought I was friends with a colleague, we saw each other outside of work and would chat on the phone.

She became good friends with a new girl who started and I felt left out and I told her this and she still carried out going out without inviting me and even included another woman we work with. She spoke about having a make your own pizza night ages ago and asked when I was free - and then she only recently had it and didn’t invite me.

I confronted her again by text and I thought she was really rude and since then she hasn’t spoken to me once apart from if I’ve asked her a work question and she just looks right through me like a ghost if we happen to walk by each other.

What do you mean by confronted?

it was fine for her to develop a friendship with another woman.

did you regularly invite your work friend out? Or were you awaiting invites?

I think it’s not nice to ask when I’m free to do something and then later on do it and not invite me.

How did you confront her? Often friends suggest meeting and it doesn’t happen for one reason or another, it’s just one of those things and not worth getting upset about.

Do you regularly invite her out? Rather then confront her, try inviting friends out.

She has no obligation to be your friend and she certainly doesn't need your permission to have friendships.

You've said in your post that you told her you didn't like her being friends with the new person, then you wonder why she's not inviting you out in her personal time.

Then you 'confronted' her about choosing not to spend time with you outside work.

You are doing 5his all wrong if you actually want to maintain a friendship.

this is all a bit intense!
I would be scared if I were your colleague

I get it op.
Obviously people aren't obliged to be yr friend but it's such an awful feeling to be excluded. Some people love to exclude somebody as it makes them feel more included 😞

"She became good friends with a new girl who started and I felt left out and I told her this and she still carried out going out without inviting me and even included another woman we work with*

You cannot control who she's friends with. You sound like she should be getting your permission to do things "even included another woman". All that's missing is "how dare she!"

Instead of confronting her you would be better off talking to her and try to make plans.

Friendships come and go.. they're normally friendships of the situation. Situation has changed, the friendship has changed.

It's rare to have true life long friends,and even they wax and wane.

Move on.