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To be outraged that you cant take photo of your own dd 3yr at a singing festival

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Ruth02 · 07/03/2008 10:09

my 3yr dd has been practising with her great nursery for the past month for the city music festival. all it is 1 wee song, 30 of them all on stage singing their wee hearts out all excited. Obviously everybody had the camera/ dvd recorders out to get special moment, then this crabbity old council bat, shouts at everybody that it is not permitted AT ALL!!!! . I cannot stand this PC C$%P gone too far. None of us are weirdos or pushy parents trying to storm the stage to get the perfect snap!!. How are you meant to remind your child of these special times if you have no momentos??? OH sorry, you could buy an official photo, which frankly was S*&^E and £12!!!. If you cant take photos because some people are paranoid of their kids being in other folks snaps dont let them take part in anything, keep them in a bloody cacoon and stop spoiling other peoples genuine desire to give their children happy memories to look at.
Sorry for the long rant but its really got my back up.

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littlelapin · 07/03/2008 10:13

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DualCycloneCod · 07/03/2008 10:14

i htink its over the top

alicet · 07/03/2008 10:15

YANBU. This would piss me off too. Like littlelapin said it is clearly more about them wanting to make money out of official photos which clearly all the paedophiles in the audience could also buy.

Peachy · 07/03/2008 10:15

I can see your point BUT usually this is done becuase a child in the group has an order in place banning publicity, this si often becuase they are in foster or adoptive famillies and would be at risk if their picture was spotted- I know the risks are low but its mroe common than you'd think, several kids I know have these orders in palce for their own protection. the only alternative is to not allow them access to activities where photographs are taken, and these are alsoften the children who benefit most so that would be really unfair!.

So whilst I can understand your anger, perhaps the info above might calm you somewhat? It's not about PC- its about protecting vulnerabloe kids.

The official photo is a bit but at least kids not allowed can be removed from shot then- though agree with the price being .

Saturn74 · 07/03/2008 10:18

I wondered that too, Peachy.
Maybe a child was living in a refuge or something similar, and to have his or her whereabouts known would be dangerous.

The prices of the photos were ridiculous though.

I hope you all bought one between one and copied it at home!

littlelapin · 07/03/2008 10:18

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Saturn74 · 07/03/2008 10:19

"one between you"

madamez · 07/03/2008 10:26

I take your point Peachy but it does sound as though on this occasion it was more about moneygrabing than protection (but then every time anyone raises any kind of safety issue where it 'just so happens' that they can sell you what you want, I get )

fishie · 07/03/2008 10:28

one of the playgroups ds attends with cm bans any photos being taken by parents/carers (not just groups, their own children too).

and now they want to take pics of ds and put them on their website!

alicet · 07/03/2008 10:31

Peachy that does shed a different light on it - thanks!

Agree though with the poster who said you should buy one pic and get it copied . £12 for a photo if its for the reasons peachy said rather than money grabbing is ridiculous

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Ruth02 · 07/03/2008 10:34

Im so angry ive emailed the council for an explanation. Quite frankly im sick of everybody else having to compromise and make sacrifices " just incase" it offends 1 person. I know for a fact Peachy that your explaination is not applicable to her nursery. Why can they not just ask if anybody has any objections, and then if they have dont do it. This is what they do in her nursery( not under the same council) and nobody has a problem with it. This is fairer that a blanket ban. Infact I dont think it a "law" as such, whats the worst they can do? ask you to leave? I must ask.

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Peachy · 07/03/2008 10:35

Yep £12 is OTT (mind you we had to pay £6.50 for a pic the kids did at school last week! And they listed who turned up so would have ahd Bad Mummy guilt if I hadn't bought the tewo (glad that ds1 is in juniors now). I mean, I can easily give them a sheet of paper and crayons at home!

Peachy · 07/03/2008 10:36

you don't know for a fact- you cannot, its confidential. Nobody ever knows these things for a fact.

I seriosuly suspect it may be a money making thing this time around BUT you can really never know, at our SN rugby group I know 4 kids with these orders in place, all attend mainstream schools.

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Ruth02 · 07/03/2008 10:36

Yes Fishie, they also did this at another council day we were at. " NO photos camera dvd alowed" was shouted at everybody, but that weekend a snap of them all appered in the local free paper!!!!.
Pot calling the kettle black !!!!

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Wisteria · 07/03/2008 10:38

I agree with you wholeheartedly on this - it is something which rankles sour with me as well.

Were there no photos available for the reasons Peachy suggests then I would be more agreeable to it but if you weren't told of any legality behind it then there would be nothing stopping any of the bought photos being uploaded and published on the internet or elsewhere anyway.

What makes me just as angry is the 'official photographer' badges that our local primary school introduced, where anyone present could just ask for a badge which apparently deemed them harmless . My DP got one, even though no one knew who he was at the time and no questions were asked.....

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Ruth02 · 07/03/2008 10:38

Well your Rugby clubs not very good at keeping secrets is it???

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Peachy · 07/03/2008 10:45

The parents told me- so that ws OK. . We're a close group.

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Ruth02 · 07/03/2008 11:06

bump

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allegrageller · 07/03/2008 11:12

horrific! why is everything being run according to tiny 'risks' which then morph into convenient excuses to charge and obstruct everyone involved??

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Ruth02 · 07/03/2008 11:24

my blood is still boiling!! my friend has now told me that the little dance class she has just started, and loves, is having a show in the summer. again you cant photo/ dvd. You can, shock horror!! buy a photo £15 and the Dvd £25, yes £25. Im in the wrong job. couple of hours with a camcorder. dvd burner and discs from asda.I could be wrong but i dont think burning a disc costs that much!!!gran and nana will be getting my own made copies!

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Peachy · 07/03/2008 11:57

Ruth have you considered valium m'dear? You reallya re worked up today aren't you 9and on teh faiths chool thread as well).

Peachy · 07/03/2008 11:57

And that was meant to have a and a also sorry

MarmiteMe · 07/03/2008 13:05

It depends on the reason given really. If it's for safety/protection issues then fair enough but ludicrous if it's going to then be in a newspaper.
I have to say though that I'd rather pay a reasonable amount, say up to £5 for a photo than endure the pita that is parents standing up every two minutes taking pics and blocking everyone elses view.
I was fuming at DD's last concert because of it

rebelmum1 · 07/03/2008 13:17

Can I just say if it's in a public place they can't stop you.

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Ruth02 · 07/03/2008 15:16

Have emailed the council again to get clarification on why the official photographer could take photos when I didint give permission!! just thought I would try and annoy them by saying I want a full concise explanation before I take it further!

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