to ask DS school friends to his birthday?

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Blueeyes13 · 09/10/2023 19:55

My DS has SEN. He is in Y9 at mainstream school. He has some friends in his class that he gets on well with and plays football with them at lunch. It's his birthday in a couple of months and he would like to invite them to go ice-skating and for a sleepover. I don't know how to go about making the invitations. He can't message on his phone, so doesn't have their numbers and they don't come out of school with him, so I can't catch them to ask. I don't even know what they look like! If he asks them in person, then he might misunderstand the answers and tell me they want to come even if they don't. Would it be ok for me to write them a note with my son's idea and ask if they or their parent could get in touch and let me know? Last year was so much easier as he invited someone I knew and could arrange something with. Any ideas on how I could approach his friends without it being weird? They obviously know he has communication difficulties.

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Dacadactyl · 09/10/2023 19:59

Is he able to ask them to write down their numbers on a piece of paper and then you message from his phone, as if it has come from him?

Smartiepants79 · 09/10/2023 20:02

So you’re trying to get in touch with a bunch of 14 yr old boys? Tricky.
I presume there is a good reason he has no ability to message them himself?
Trouble is most organisation of things like this is done through the kids initially and then if they’re up for it the mums get involved to organised the logistics!
Old fashioned paper invites?? Can he not get them to write down a contact number. Email??

WillowCraft · 09/10/2023 20:04

Could he give them a paper invitation with your number on it? Like for primary school parties

anon0007 · 09/10/2023 20:08

Does he not have a school email address he can email them on?

Or write the details down for them and ask them to hand them out.

At 14 they would need their parents to ok the sleepover.

LittleMonks11 · 09/10/2023 20:15

Do you not have a class WhatsApp or Facebook or anything to ask for the parents of Johnny, Bobby, Jimmy, Ned and Ted to message you?

Or you could always try via the class tutor explaining everything.

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Blueeyes13 · 09/10/2023 20:24

I think I'll have to send a paper invite. We don't have a class WhatsApp and I'm not sure about using his email to contact them. It just feels a bit weird contacting them as if I was him. Perhaps I'm overthinking it all.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 09/10/2023 20:40

I wouldn’t send paper invites. I’d find out their email. Your ds will be on a school platform with all of his subjects detailed including homework and links as well as email. You just need to get him to sign onto the platform.

Smartiepants79 · 09/10/2023 20:55

Why can he not send the messages under your supervision?
I do think that most 14 year old boys would think paper invites a little odd. I don’t know your sons background or these other kids (hopefully they’re kind) but I’m not this is helping him ‘fit in’..

vintagechristmas · 09/10/2023 21:20

I’m a teacher and form tutor to students similar to your sons age. If you rang or emailed me at school and explained the situation I’d be more than happy to help out. Try contacting their form tutor, I’m sure they would do the same.

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