To think DH is ungrateful

[AbsolutelyFedupofthisShit]

I always arrange to make family dinners when DH works from home. This means we can all sit together at the table; on these days I tend to make something nicer where it is better eaten fresh.

Today I asked DH do you want me to make this meal today, or another day. He tells me to make it today as we can all eat it together. I make this meal while taking care of the dcs, needless to say I am really looking forward to sitting down and eating it. Fast forward, the meal is ready, and I call everyone to table. DH is on a long scheduled in (not beknown to me) work call that isn't finishing anytime soon. Dc1 who is 6 proclaims he isn't coming in as he is "busy watching something." I told him to get himself in there and eat, which he did to be fair. Dc2 who is 4 refused outright to sit at the table, and camped out at the bottom of the stairs crying eyes out for "Daddy!" I try repeatedly to calm him down, and eventually get him at the table, he is sobbing and refusing to eat until "Daddy does!"
At this point my meal is cold, the homemade bread has been sitting and not warm, and as appetising anymore. DH comes down eventually after dc1 and I have finished, sits there starts eating and says nothing, ans stares into his phone! He doesn't console dc2, or make any attempt to get him to ask him to eat his dinner.
I get up and clear the dishes away and DH says "what are you doing?" I said "I'm cleaning up, does anybody want any more before I put it in the fridge?" DH says "I don't know." I then put it away and he says "what if I wanted some more?" Then dc1 shouts at me about dessert! I've had enough at this point.

Does anybody else feel underappreciated? I wish I'd just served beans on toast, DH's reaction or lack of one will be the same either way I'm sure. Sometimes I feel like I'm living with an overgrown teenager. Anyway rant over, have taken myself off to be alone, I don't think any of them have even noticed either.

People are being harsh. You're not feeling appreciated so something needs to change. Maybe the only way is for you to not do so much. Work and see your friends more so that when you are there they'll realise what they're missing.
Eating at the table together is nice but not every day. Your husband can make food there's no doubt about that.

Thank you everyone, there's definitely some food for thought here (please excuse the cringeworthy quote). I have read every comment and appreciate everybody's insight. Thank you @Jk987 that's exactly it, I think the meal was the last straw.

pun not quote* right it's time for me to come off here 😂

So have you been left to do the nursery/school run, work, then make dinner?!

Your kids will be older before you know it. Tell dh that you don't want phones at the table and you'd rather have conversation.

@Runnerinthenight you really let work calls overrun instead of spending time with your family?

I would yes - but my children are all adults.

YABU Is annoying when you cook and want it eat together. Yabu to be annoyed your dc cried and wanted daddy. Who consoles them when they want something else, or hurts themselves?

'Who consoles them when they want something else, or hurts themselves?'

Me.

I get annoyed when I'm making a dinner that has to be served immediately (like seafood tortellini or something) and my husband will ask if I can "pause dinner" or do something and leave dinner cooking. I said to him recently when he asked me to help put up Christmas decorations while I was cooking "do you see chefs buggering off to put up decorations during cooking?!"