Valium for impatience?

[Leah5678]

Does anyone else have absolutely no patience or tolerance for boredom? I worry it might be rubbing off on my kids and they will become like this too. How did you overcome this I know valium was referred to as the housewives little helper hence the title. But obviously drugs would be the last resort.
Would it be unreasonable to take something like valium to chill me out?

How on earth are you going to obtain valium? Doctors don't just hand it out.

Definitely unreasonable. Valium is a controlled substance as it is highly addictive. A better approach would be to actually find something to occupy yourself with if it is just the boredom problem - arts and crafts, reading, walks, gym, mindfulness, meditation, cooking... whatever takes your fancy.

Patience can be learned. Impatience is a personality trait/behaviour not an illness so why would you want to medicate for it. Try some meditation or stop and ask yourself what getting wound up accomplishes when you feel your irritation rising.

I used to think I was the world's most impatient person, turns out I'm not and when I let go of trying to control everything I'm happier and the disasters I feared rarely materialise. It does take practice.

If boredom is the problem then get yourself a hobby but honestly a little time spent doing nothing is not a bad thing.

WTF did I just read. A controlled substance for impatience?! No.

Impatience isn't a solitary symptom, you need to speak to a GP or MH professional to investigate whether it's overwhelm/overstimulation and then there are other options like therapy, coping mechanisms and other controlled medications if needed.

But no, you can't choose to get strung out on valium because you're impatient.

And I say that as someone on controlled drugs medicating ND!

I've tried getting into things but I am very impatient so it's hard to not get bored, I do enjoy a walk though. The reason I made this post is because I'm starting to see my son become like me and I'm worried.

Their not going to prescribe Valium to you so discount it from your plan.

If you are bored when you are occupied then I don't think impatience is the problem.

Is it possible that it may be ADHD rather than impatience? Can you focus generally? What about at work?
When you say you see your son being like you, what have school said? How old is he?

What do you mean by this? I'm a very impatient person I find a lot of things very boring. This wasn't a big deal until now as I'm starting to worry it will affect my kids.
I mentioned valium in the title because I thought more people would view the thread (sorry) really going to the doctor for some kind of medication to chill me out would be the last resort. I was more looking for advice from people who have similar personalities

@Leah5678 this is a really good post. If you are seeing similar traits in your children have you considered ADHD? There are medications available and they help in a different way

My work is very mind numbing most of my colleagues also find it boring tbh. My son is 5 school haven't said anything negative but we have parents evening this week so I'll see what they say then. At home he does seem to have typical ADHD symptoms school have never called me to complain which I know they do if a child is misbehaving/something's out of the ordinary as other parents have told me

You won't get a valium / diazapam prescription with out basically being in secondary care psychiatry and then seeing you as untreatable. I get 12 a month and basically they give it me as nothing else works and I have to have it reviewed really frequently. It's physically addictive and they don't like giving it to people

But yes medication of a different type could help if you think your impatience is being caused by depression, anxiety or other medical conditions. Worth going to the gp

I think you should look into ADHD, you sound like you mean can’t focus on task that don’t constantly entertain you and that’s a typical trait. And yes there is medication for this, although long wait and apparently a national shortage atm.

I swear I come from a long line of alcoholics because they needed to slow their brains down.

This is something you can handle yourself. This is what really helped me- hearing the phrase was like a lightbulb.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
— Often attributed to Steven Covey or Viktor E. Frankl

As an example I was getting wound up almost to the point of tears on parking up. The car has to be parked in an exact spot on the drive, it beeps, I have to turn it off in a certain sequence, put the steering wheel lock on, all the time with dog whining and in a rush to get in and on.
All that beeping and whining and having to things in a sequence is the stimulus. Instead of immediately becoming flustered I consciously slow down, breathe deeply and very slowly and very mindfully go through the sequence noticing that it’s manageable and I’m not wound up- the space, and taking it makes doing the action manageable.

And rather wonderfully the Covey up thread wrote the 7 habits books and his son expanded on them (and improved them imo) for children.

If you're around 40 it'll probably be peri-menopause anyway. More support for your child and some HRT and support for you would be better.

Definitely get an assessment for ADHD. I was diagnosed as an adult when I took my son to be assessed. The psychiatrist ended my son's consultation by telling me that he was sure I had it too and I needed to get my own assessment done! I had to make an appointment with a different doctor as the one who assessed my son only worked with children and young people.

I was diagnosed with severe combined ADHD - scoring highly on attention deficit, highly on hyperactivity (which is hyperactivity of the mind rather being physically hyperactive), high impulsiveness and poor executive function. I take 40mg Elvanse every day and it has helped me much. I no longer feel a constant sense of irritation and impatience and I feel like I'm a much easier person to be around.

I was also a long-term anxiety sufferer, and that turned out to be connected to the ADHD too. I was stuck permanently in 'fight or flight' mode. I manage my anxiety very successfully with a program called 'Everyday Bliss' on the MindValley app on my phone, which I highly recommend - it's the first time in my life I have been able to learn to fully relax without medication.

Seconding the possible ADHD thing.

I have it, and this is what I am like.