To still be bothered by this?

[Pupsandturtles]

NC for this as a few of my friends and family are on here!

when I was 11, one of my brothers (4y older) threw me off a small platform in anger and broke my ankle. He wasn’t punished for this because he seemed very sad and ‘it was probably an accident’. (It wasnt.)

it bothers me to this day. It was one in a string of incidents where I felt my parents indulged and enabled this brother’s poor behaviour.

was that normal in the 80s/90s? To take the approach of ‘boys will be boys’/ ‘siblings are like that?’ I am genuinely interested in responses because I’m not sure if I’m overreacting to still be bothered by it.

I’m really sorry
Did your family ‘do punishments’?
I’m asking because I didn’t ‘do punishments’ with my dc, but there’d have definitely been consequences; the hurt child would be spoilt and the pusher told off, expected to treat the other etc.

@Lamelie I’m not really sure. I remember being smacked as a young child, so I suppose the answer is yes. I don’t remember much punishment as an older child- but then, I was a stereotypical ‘good girl.’ I don’t recall my brother being punished ever, really, or facing consequences, even when he was older and drinking/ doing drugs/ partying etc.

i feel a real sense of unease when I think about being a child (I only recently realised that not everybody has this!) which I think comes from feeling unprotected from a bully. But then I wonder if I’m overreacting, because a lot of older siblings are like this 🤷🏼‍♀️