Partner weight gain

[iLoveFood94]

Hi..

I had a baby 8months ago but since I got pregnant my partner is piling the weight on and still now. He knows he is overweight and says how he doesn't like it so is going to do something about it but never does. He will eat dinner and then eat so much junk food straight after.

I LOVE him so much, always have and always will but lately I look at him and his body disgusts me. I feel awful saying and even thinking this but I just can't help it. I love a man with abit of a build but this is too far. Sex is uncomfortable too which makes me not want it and he asks me why I don't initiate sex anymore but I don't have the heart to tell him. He gets out of breath SO easy even from just talking and he's always saying he's hot or sweating and to me this is so unattractive.

For reference, I'm a UK size 12 atm (was 8/10 before baby) and he's a XXL

I just want to to know what I should do? How I should approach it? And AIBU?

Thanks in advance

If you do approach it, I'd do so from a health point of view. Your baby is going to soon to a toddler who wants to eat what daddy eats and do what daddy does. What is he going to do about the junk food then? How is he going to run around kicking a football or playing tag or go bike rides etc if everything makes him out of breath? Tell him you're worried about his health and its not fair to be putting his health at risk now you've got a son. You could say that you want to get down to your pre baby weight and can he support you with that by eating healthily and exercising together. Ultimately though its got to come from him.

I've gone through this situation with my husband who unfortunately passed away in his mid 50's with heart disease. He was addicted to fizzy drinks and drank gallons of the stuff every day.Meanwhile, I was trying to encourage my toddlers to drink water and they wanted to drink what their father was drinking.
He needs to want to help himself and getting to that stage is so difficult. You can't become his diet enforcer but need to have a serious conversation with him