To resent the close relationship my DD has with her grandparents?

[NCsadMum]

I’m a single mum and my DD’s dad lives abroad and has never been in her life and never will be. I moved back with my parents when pregnant and love them for how supportive they’ve been.

but DD is 9m now and she adores them and I think she prefers them to me. If I’m holding her and one of them comes in she reaches out to be held by them. She crawls over to them when she sees them etc. she never does this to me. I attend to all her needs, nappy changes, meals, nighttime wake ups and cuddles and playing etc but she seems to prefer her grandparents and it’s getting me down.

You're her main carer and she will realise this more and more. Just try to be thankful that she has other people who love her and care about her. A child can't have too many people on their side.
As long as your parents aren't undermining you in any way it should all work out fine.

Babies go through phases and no doubt she'll go through a phase where only you will do, and you'll be begging her to want her GP 😁

One of mine went through a bizarre phase of wanting to be held by passing strangers, or anyone at a bus stop.

Embarrassing but thankfully short lived.

It's pretty normal for babies to reach out for loved ones

You'll know you're number one if she turns to you when upset/hurt/tired etc.

Take it as a compliment, you're so consistently there, she takes you for granted

She doesn’t need to ‘perform’ for your love because she is secure in it.

It’s the same reason teenagers are vile to their own parents but lovely to their mates parents.

try to console yourself that although it doesn’t feel like it it is actually a sign you’re doing parenting right!