To think this is pretty shitty behaviour re daughter’s interview

[bagpuss90]

My daughter applied for a Saturday job as a shampooist in a hairdressers. She got an interview yesterday afternoon - dressed up smartly and arrived 5 mins early . Then only to be told they’d already given the job to an applicant that morning. Just turned her away , didn’t do the interview. She rang me up in tears (she’d been quite nervous) 5 mins after her interview was meant to start (so she wasn’t late ) Should I leave it or ring up and complain? They had her contact details- they could have let her know - manners cost nothing . In some ways I’m thinking she had a lucky escape tho

It's rude and suggests they are badly organised.

But there's no upside to your complaining. This is your DD's issue to manage and you getting involved would be counterproductive Firstly because as others have pointed out the world of work can be brutal, arbitrary and competitive, even at the entry level. Getting used to that is no bad thing for a young person.

Also because having your mum swoop in and sort out all your problems is not a good life lesson.

Do not contact them.

Again for those in back…Do not contact them.

You teach your daughter that there are good employers and crappy ones. You teach her how to get past her disappointment and move on to bigger and better things. You don’t get involved with her employment. She needs these experiences and you jumping into them will only make it harder for her in the long run. Absolutely slag them off to family and friends in conversation. Tell your DD. ‘Fuck them…you didn’t really want to work there anyway“.

Do not contact them directly or indirectly.

I'd go in to the shop and tell them precisely what you think, and thank them for doing your daughter a favour, as she will find better employers than them.

@43ontherocksporfavor 16 is a young person, not a child. The typical British 16 year old has already drunk alcohol and is close to losing their virginity (age 17).

I would have been mortified to have my parents interfere with the nutty woman I worked for on Saturdays at that age, who summarily fired my friend and me from our Sat sales jobs in her small shop because, she claimed, stuff was going missing. It certainly wasn’t me and I really don’t think it was my friend; I never could follow NW’s reasoning. But that’s life. (Assuming no great financial hardship)

Seriously, all this will do is make you look like a loon. They will not Mend Their Ways. They will laugh, a lot, and tell stories about the kid whose mum stormed in for the rest of time.

Well, the salon need to know how their shitty ways are viewed, and whether they actually care or not is irrelevant.

It's a chance for the OP to get it off her chest, and that feeling will be priceless! 🤩

**Well, the salon need to know how their shitty ways are viewed, and whether they actually care or not is irrelevant.

It's a chance for the OP to get it off her chest, and that feeling will be priceless! 🤩**

This 💯

So rude of them but she’s better off without working for them! Tell her to chin up and keep trying. Horrible though it is

I disagree. Much more effective
to name and shame the salon and perhaps key individuals on SM

YANU to think they were rude/wrong

YABU to even think of ringing to complain

Help your DD see she dodged a bullet and move on.

And then they will go and tell every other employer around ‘don’t hire X, you’ll get her bat shit crazy mum as well’
seriously, this is a life lesson, some employers are bad. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again. Better to learn this now than later.

It’s selfish of OP to complain.

she is annoyed, she wants them to know, she wants an outlet for her irritation.

it’s all about her.
Try
she should be teaching her daughter independence- how to manage her own life and feelings.

this is a sign of an emotionally immature adult. It’s not about her getting revenge against the salon that has wronged her child. It’s not about her at all.

my mum would have marched down and complained. My feelings and wishes would have been irrelevant. This would have become all about my mums feelings.

When Dcs are old enough to work they can’t have mummy stepping in and complaining. Help her word an email to them from her.

I know it’s difficult as we spend years advocating for them but we do need to step down as they grow up.

tttigress
its not a career move - she’s planing on going to uni . It was just fir pocket money

Bellyblueboy
she’s does manage her own life and feelings. I was just annoyed on her behalf it’s not all about me

The salon owner told my daughter that she hadn’t got all day to waste time interviewing people . I’m sure my daughter may well have not been the only one to rock up needlessly . It seems only the owners time matters

I would encourage her to send a professional sounding email because that's not really acceptable. I work with young people who struggle to get into work and a scenario like that would massively knock their confidence. Just because it's a 'kids Saturday job' doesn't mean those kids don't deserve to be treated respectfully and aren't entitled to a fair process.

I'd say that if that's the way they'd treat her they might not be great to work for anyways .

Yes it was a waste of her time but that is life it happens, but why on earth would you call? Seriously?

@bagpuss90 - I completely sympathise with you and your daughter. My DD applied for so many Saturday jobs and there seems to be absolutely no common courtesy these days. Even a few that told her that she had done a good interview didn't bother letting her know that she hadn't been successful.

It's hard, particularly if your child isn't confident and has psyched themselves up for an interview.

I didn't ever get involved, although was sorely tempted when she was verbally bullied by her manager at a weekend job (she was only 15 at the time). On that occasion I couldn't have been prouder when she told me that she had stood up for herself and it was quite something when they asked if she wanted to stay on after the summer holidays and she told them no and why not.

I think we have to let them find out how the world works but I certainly feel that there is much less decency these days and that some places exploit young people readily, and then categorize them as "snowflakes" if they challenge bad working practices.

Good luck to your daughter x

Over 40 years ago my friend and I got a job in a new family owned supermarket. Previously they had just a corner shop set up. We worked all morning and then got told we weren't needed. I do remember someone bringing back a packet of biscuits as they were soft. The place had been stocked a few months Previously.
We were about 14/15. My mum went ballistic and gave the owner a piece of her mind. I didn't find out until afterwards. She would have known him as it was a small town.
We got a job towards the end of summer at a guest house and worked summers and weekends for the next 4 years. So much better and loved it even though the hours were longer but pay was ok plus we also got tips.

I like the idea of booking an appointment for as many services as you can then calling 5 minutes after the start time to say sorry but you decided to go to another salon because you understand their time is precious. I'd probably do this several times over a week. See how the manager, who is probably the owner and charging the most per appointment likes it then.

I won’t ring and complain - was sorely tempted tho

With people like that, it's probably not worth approaching them. Whether you do or not is your decision, of course. You are already doing the most important thing - supporting your daughter :)

This would be delicious.