To expect dp to stay in with me....

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as I'm waiting on a call to say my Gran has passed away?

She is very ill and the doctors have said they don't think she will hang on much longer, I talked to my mum (who is with her) a few hours ago and she was struggling to breathe.

I am scared and worried because I know it it imminent and I could really have done with him being here to comfort me.

I did ask him to stay but he just promised to keep his phone on I am so disappointed in him.

Where is he going?

Where's he gone? If it's the pub, that's not really on, but if it's something important, can kind of see his point...

Where is it that he feels he must go at this time of night, and when you could use his support?

Sorry you're going through this btw...

Where is he?

Has he had to go out for any particular reason?

TBH I think DH would have stayed in with me, providing he didn't have something that was important on, and I would have ben miffed had he left.

where the hell is he?
unless he has his own gran in a critical state elsewhere he should be with you.
what a knob.

I can't think of anything that would have taken DH away at a time like this, except maybe another relative in similar peril.

I hope he's doing something very very important. Thoughts are with you.

He has gone to his friends to watch the football

o my god that is awful, have you got a friend who can come round and chat with you? just so you are not alone. what a selfish XXXX!

I have a friend who lives just up the road and I know that she would come round straight away if I asked but what I want, well need really is him here to sit with me.

I don't think that is too much to ask of partner. We have been together for 8 years, have two dd's and have been through so much together. He should know that I need him now to be able to cope

you lamb..that's just plain crap. not trying to incite a war at home but eh? what is he thinking.thoughts are with you lady.xx

he really should know, but in his absence, i think you should get your friend round. Honestly, you need a shoulder to cry on and someone to make you a cup of tea. It should be your d, but as he is, as I have already decreed, a knob, he is not there. So you need someone else. You poor poor thing, sometimes i want to hit other people's dps with a big hard rock!

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts x

tbh I am sitting here doubting my whole relationship because of this, I just can't believe that he is not here supporting me.

i would be too, but i don't think that is your focus right now.
ring your friend, seriously, although MN is a lovely source of support, i think you need an actualy human to hug.
go on...

It sounds like he either

• just hasn't realised how serious this is for you
• finds the whole situation very uncomfortable and just wants to escape from it
• is just insensitive and would rather watch the football (hope it isn't this one)

Sorry you are having to go through this on your own.

I'm so sorry that your dh is adding to your distress instead of comforting you. At the risk of asking the obvious - have you told him how important this is to you, and how upset you are that he is going out? Does he understand?

Ring your friend and get her over asap.

I told him that I needed him to stay and it was important for him to support me and yet he still went

I don't see how he has to escape it when he has been working all day.

He just doesn't seem to understand.

Going to head to bed and try to egt some sleep. Phone will be by my bedside

Thanks everyone x