To expect DH to check up on us??

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Currently on a family holiday with DH family. I’ve had the worst holiday so far DS 1 is extremely challenging I dread taking him anywhere as he just screams and chucks food and throws himself on the floor. I’ve not been able to get involved as I get so much anxiety around DS and I take him back to the room.

I have just been for dinner and left DH and dc’s with in-laws whilst I took DS back. This is the second night now where we’ve walked back in the pitch black DH not even checked on us or offered to walk us back.

Im having to carry a buggy and DS up three flights off stairs.

I don’t j is if I’m being over the top or what

I'm a grown adult so would not expect to be 'checked on' at all!!! Sorry!

You need to use your words. If you want him to take DS, tell him. Or stay, and get the rest of the family to help.

Yanbu, the least he could do is help you with the buggy. My dh wouldn't do this.

Why didn’t you say to your DH that it was his turn tonight to bring DS back and you stayed on ?

In that instance my husband would walk us back, help with the carry, make sure we were settled then leave again. I know this because I too had a child who struggled in restaurants etc. So I dont think you are being unreasonable.

But why have you done it two nights in a row? It is DHs turn tonight, surely?

I’m not bothered about staying down there drinking all night, I would have liked to have gone and watched the show and had a few drinks with everyone else. Me and MIL are the only girls so I’m not exactly going to sit with all the men.

He should have come back with you.

The eating out is obviously not working though, maybe plan differently tomorrow and take it in turns to stay with the bairn.

Time for dad to walk back I think. Perhaps baby is picking up on your anxiety. He is at an age where he needs to be doing. I remember giving my child a hunk of crusty bread at this age when he was getting loud during a meal.

So she should just do it all while he enjoys his holiday?! Including walking back in the dark with a pissed off child and a buggy. Are you a man? Or just a woman with internalised misogyny?

This is what my DH would do too, he would probably also have checked that I was ok staying with DS! If we were with DH's family I would send him back and if we were with my family I would go back.