Should I have been consulted?

[GilChesterton13]

I work FT, usually more hours than I am actually paid for; DP works two days a week. We have two teenage DCs.

Recently we were gossiping about work stuff, and DP casually says "...anyway, she's not being replaced and they offered me her hours. I said 'no', not interested." It turns out this could have meant one or two extra days on DP's contract (his choice). DP likes his job and co-workers, and it is definitely not stressful (the extra hours would probably have been wfh).

I'm not saying I would have argued, but aibu to think I could have been consulted? My salary is good and basically covers all the essentials; we don't have any (immediate) money worries, but up to double DP's current earnings wouldn't be nothing, and we do have things we would like to do to the house when we can afford them. DP is also constantly going on about how much things cost and how we have to be careful.

As I say, I probably wouldn't have argued about the choice, but I feel like I should have been consulted before the notion was dismissed?

I agree with you and actually, now DC are older why isn't he pulling his weight more financially?

Will the increase in her/his hours mean that it will be considerable more stressful for everyone else. What's the financial gain?

I currently do 2.5 days a week and there's no way I'm going to do any more until the children have left. I barely have enough time to get all the housework, admin, etc done as it is.

What is his current reasoning for being part time? Does he have health issues?

Will the increase in her/his hours mean that it will be considerable more stressful for everyone else.*

I can't see why. There wouldn't be a need for any more childcare, I do all the shopping and most of the cooking, laundry, etc. He does the cleaning but even the full four days would still leave one day when everyone else is out to do it.

It's not the change that's the issue, though, but that we didn't get the chance to discuss it.

I think he should either have mentioned it as an option at the start, or shut up about it.

But if he moans about lack of funds in the future, you know what to say!!

We'll hand these tasks to him then.

Just tell him he can work in the home 3 days a week picking up all the admin tasks or work for a salary in a job an extra 2 days and you'll split the house work according 4:5

I think he should have at least mentioned it to you before turning them down.

So you work 5 days and he works 2,how different are the salaries?

Seems he's quiet happy working much less which is only OK if he's contributing equally or compensating with household work or childcare? Doesn't sound like he is.

Yes, I think he should have consulted you. Income should be a joint discussion and decision.