AIBU to be concerned about what my friend did?

[Justmeplease1]

My friend doesn’t live in this country. She told me that she struggled to get a taxi home after a night out. Her and a friend were stranded with no way home.

Her and her friend that she was out with are neighbours. My friend’s husband FaceTimed her friends husband and left the phone in his kids room so that he could watch their kids who were in bed asleep. Her friends husband had his own children at home.

Her husband left the kids at home alone for 20 mins whilst he collected them. The children are 10 and 8.

AIBU to think that this wasn’t a wise idea? I don’t want to sound judgemental but I do want to maybe suggest to my friend that she shouldn’t do this again. Also don’t want to poke my nose in if I’m being unreasonable. Thanks.

Seems fine and quite an ingenious solution! Absolutely not for a 2 and 4 year old, for example, but 8 and 10 and fast asleep with someone literally next door in case of emergency... no issue.

Meh. Can't get worked up about this.

You're judgemental and smug!
I wouldn't like to be your friend

That was a creative solution to the problem. I couldn't get worked up about that and I certainly wouldn't judge.

I actually think that solution was quite ingenious!

For 20 mins it’s fine, one is 10yo!

Why do you think it wasn’t wise, and how is it any of your business?

Have you even got kids??

No problem at all in an emergency with a phone left there, for 20 mins!

Hopefully you'll listen to us all and drop it

What? No of course you don't say anything that solution was absolutely fine 🙄

How is it your business?

Mine are 9 and 7. They get left for up to half an hour regularly. At those ages absolutely fine they aren’t babies

You think she is planning on doing this again?

I doubt it - though my parents actually did leave us like this and younger than that. Before the days of phones though, we had an intercom between our house and next door, so they could hear us, or press a button and speak to us.

Quite how they could hear us from the intercom in the kitchen, to the bedrooms on the first and second floors... of a pretty huge victorian semi (super high ceilings!) I am not sure.. but I know Mrs next door came SPRINTING round the night I woke up SCREAMING with a spider on my face, so it did work!

But that was the blessed 80's and I highly doubt anyone thinks its appropriate now. As an emergency one off, it sounds fine and more sensible than waking up children to take them next door.

YOu'd absolutely sound judgemental if you tell her not to do it again, keep your mouth shut, unless she actively asks you if you think she should do this again.