To go to an LGBT conference when questioning?

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Work are hosting an LGBT conference for their Global staff in Madrid. All paid for. 5* Hotel and 2 days off work.

Most people going are Lesbian and Gay and in relationships with same sex partners. I am married to a man and my religion prohibits me from ever doing anything with someone of my gender. I have been questioning if I am bisexual as sometimes I feel a sort of attraction to women, but it’s not something I have ever acted on or will.

The criteria for going is if you self identify as LGBT. No one knows if I am actually Bi or not.

If you were me, would you go?

Surely if it’s all about the conference then the new city is neither here nor there. I’ve been to plenty of conferences where all I’ve ever seen is the inside of the conference centre.

i would book yourself a mini break instead.

Not sure about the conference but just wanted to empathise. I’m in the same boat; I have been with my DH from a young age and only realised I was bi a while after, so have never been with a woman and it is likely I never will as I am very happily married. I also have a religious background. It’s not easy knowing there is a whole part of me that will
never be fully explored.

If it was me I wouldn’t go as I only my husband and my therapist know I am bi; I have never come out to anyone. Going to something like this would ‘out’ me and I don’t want that. I’m of the opinion that no one needs to know except my husband.

To be fair, if my employer offered me two days off at a five star hotel in Madrid, I’d probably start questioning too.