To leave a job after 6 weeks

[tiredandstressed123]

I've been in a job for about 6 weeks now. It's a 'professional' job that I did before having kids. I have to pay my own registration each year, do CPD etc. it's only 2 days a week so I thought it would be perfect really. Works ok round the kids, 2 days, no weekends, holiday pay and pension etc. I get 11.20 an hour.
The thing is I'm just really unhappy. The girls aren't the nicest, aren't really giving me much time to learn things again and how it works, I'm expected to be there way before my paid start time.. I don't agree with some of their ways of doing things. Every night before work I feel sick to my stomach. And come home wanting to cry. I want it to work cos the hours are ideal and it's nice having weekend back but I don't know how much longer I can go on. My position seems to be one that has had a lot of people come and go, and I am starting to see why.

I was considering just being a SAHM for a while as my DD is only little and my eldest is only primary school. DH was more than fine with this as he's hating seeing me so unhappy.

I came across a job on indeed at a pub 5 miles up the road so went for a chat with the owner. She's offered me £12.50ph.. so £1.25 more than I get at this professional job, said she would work round me as it's zero hours, but I would have to work some weekends. Maybe a couple a month. No pension etc, it's just a low stress come, get paid and do your job kind of job.

What would you do? Give current job more chance, SAHM or give the pub a try?

Similar to the pub job in some respects, a zero hour job in a cafe. They wouldn't give me any weekends at all of though which is why I went to this job, as it's what I qualified in before having kids and I knew it wouldn't be weekend work.

@Broccoliforever that's the one cough dental nursing..

I am but in the morning, in between and afterwards I'm with them. I just feel constantly picked at. I was told, quite abruptly the other night by one of them "there's so much you're not doing!!" I've been out of it 7 years, only do 2 days a week and that practise runs completely different to the cooperate practise I worked at

if it is a professional job i would stick with it, rise above them, it takes 6 weeks at least to settle in
stand up for yourself

otoh, if you think you would like pub work why not?

I walked out of the best paid job I ever had after six months - didn't regret it, it was ruining my mental state. Also walked out of a shithouse job in a call centre after two weeks because the conditions stank. I'd leave in your position.

I’d be wary of a pub job that requires only “some” weekends.

There's definitely pros and cons to all the options but if you would actively enjoy the pub job that would probably come out on top for me.

I enjoy cafe type work as it's low stress, turn up, do your job and go. I've found people are usually down to earth and nice to work with in those kind of environments. I told the lady I wouldn't want every single weekend and she said that's ok, otherwise I could work every weekend.

I don't know. It's really getting me down x

can you do some trial shifts at the pub at the same time?

That's not a bad idea OP?

Don't forget it's Christmas coming up too - you'll possibly be pressured to do extra shifts, help at weekends because they're so busy, stay late to clear up ready for next day etc.

I'd try to make the professional role work if possible. Even if it's only for another 6 months while you find another practice to move to.

@MyCircumference I don't see why not actually , that's a good idea. X

That's a really good idea :)

I loved working in pubs!

If you leave the dental nurse job now, will that make getting back in at a later date harder?

Are there other dentists nearby that you could work at?

How about you work in the pub for a while and keep your eyes open for another dental job, no hurry, just see what comes up?

Colleagues make such a huge difference to a job, if they're arseholes, it'll make you miserable.

@Gazelda she did say she would give me Christmas off as she does for most of the staff who had children, but she would ask I worked new years. She said she'd come back to me on Monday with what kind of days and times she would like me to do so I'd get a better idea then of what kind of hours she'd want me to do I suppose x

Dental Practices are struggling to find qualified dental nurses as so many have left the profession. Could you look for a different practice if it's the girls in that one that are making it difficult? However it is notorious for not paying well hence why so many are leaving to do other jobs.

It really annoys me just how rude and bitchy some people can be. I mean how dare she say that to you. You could always stay at home for a bit and try Dental Nursing somewhere else another time with hopefully nicer people.

Leave the job. It's making your miserable and I really can't see it getting better.
Take the pub job until you find another dental nurse position. You could also join an agency for dental nurses and do bank work to keep up your skills and registration.

C'mon @tiredandstressed123 why aren't you standing up for yourself? This job is perfect for you and your family. Don't let the bastards grind you down.. pull them up in their comments... ask them what they think you're not doing. Speak to your manager... if they're happy, what's the issue.

You're going to run into vile people wherever you go. The pub job could be just as bad... and you'd be doing it at weekends!

Stand your ground. You must be good at what you do or you wouldn't have got the job.

I have a friend who does dental nursing through an agency, keeps her skills up gets paid a higher daily rate.

The thing is I have stood up for myself.. I used to be quite quiet but at 35 I now do sort of "gob back" as my dad would put it. But it makes it worse. Especially one girl she just argues and then makes you feel awkward for the rest of the day, or picks at you further.

Someone had just left as I was starting so I added her on Facebook.. she was late 30s so no young wall flower and she said the same as me. They just made her life hell when she was there and the manager just turns a blind eye to it.