AIBU for tutting

[MumOfTheNorth]

When out in public if someone does something really rude I'll do a tut. I'll be thinking something like 'what a twat' and it just springs forth as a tut. My husband finds it super annoying and it is pretty passive aggressive but it just makes me feel so much better! For context the sort of thing that would get a tut is littering, blowing cigarette smoke in my face, pushing in a que, getting a shoulder barge. Like I wish I was a bigger person but I'm honestly just not and a little tut lets me move on with my day happily. To tut or not to tut?

Definitely tut! It reminds me so much of Victoria Wood, where she would explain how she showed her objection with a well-timed tut!

Tut away! I've been doing so much more tutting since being perimenopausal. I find it's one of the very few perks! 😂

I'd find it annoying too.

Your husband should be more bothered about people doing the things you've listed than you tutting about them.

I'd say something in most of the situations you have listed, I wouldn't just tut.

My DH does an equivalent of your tut all the time…. After over 20 years of putting up with him doing it… it become like a form of that slow dripping water torture for me.

How often are you doing it? I can't say I feel like tutting even once a day. You must be annoyed a lot to tut so much.

It is annoying and rude. I would also be wary of doing it to the wrong person and being assaulted.

YABU! Why don't you just say something? If someone blew smoke in my face I'd say 'excuse me, would you please stop doing that'. A tut could mean anything and actually cause more aggression, because the other person has no idea what it means. I'm with your DH. It would drive me bonkers too!

The word tut has lost all meaning after reading this thread lol tut

I kind of feel if the behaviour is rude enough to merit a tut you might as well just come out and say it to them, otherwise just keep it to yourself. Blowing cigarette smoke in someone's face is just rude and should be called out.

I wouldn't want to live in a constant fug of barely contained passive aggression so I can see what your DH means. But I probably do it too.

That's rude in itself. I also don't imagine any reaction to it other than laughing or, the one I would be wary of - an angrier person having a go at you for it.