Food for thought?

[Babysharkdodo123]

I arrived at DD's (20 months) nursery today a little earlier today at the same time they were having afternoon snack.I walked in and DD was sat on the floor crying whilst her key worker sat looking at her. The rest of the children were at the little tables they have eating their food.When I asked what was wrong they told me that DD kept getting down from the table so they'd put her in time out.I understand that nursery needs rules, but sitting DD on the floor whilst she's crying and not giving her food to me is inhumane! Also just letting her sit there and cry and just staring at her rather than helping her through the tantrum to me is awful. At home, we do have boundaries but toddlers have very big emotions that they don't understand so I'd never ignore crying or withhold food as a punishment. Is it a case of PFB or are nursery wrong to discipline a 20 month old like this?

Wondering was it just a poor choice of words from the member of staff and was she actually just sitting with her while she calmed down and you saw a snapshot of her just looking at her?

What did she say exactly and how did she say it word for word?

Oh and if it was a time out for a 20 month old then YANBU!!! Sounds very off.

I think no food unless sat at the table is a good and necessary rule. So, withholding snack while she was choosing not to be at the table is fine.

Putting her in time out isn't ideal nor is just sitting and watching her cry.

Was the staff member sat with her? Or was she separated from the group? I think if someone was sat with her, then it's fine and she was probably crying because she couldn't have what she wanted which is fine and she appropriate. If she was isolated and crying in distress then that's different.

I'd talk to the nursery workers involved on Monday.