My friend and I have been friends for almost 30, since the start of primary school. During our childhood, she claimed me as her best friend and wouldn't let other children play with me (i was very shy and kind of just went with it). She ruined every birthday party I had by acting out as she was upset the attention was on me and not her.
Fast forward to our teens, she stopped talking to me for over 2 years and I had no idea why. She would not reply to my messages and stayed away from me. When we rekindled our friendship she said it was because she didnt like my boyfriend (who was now an ex). She became friends with me again once we broke up.
Now we are adults, grown up, both married with children. I'm godmother to her kids (who I adore), but there are times when she will go months with no contact, then act like I'm the one who doesnt bother, even though I always send the first text or suggest to meet up.
I am currently pregnant after a miscarriage last year. Due to the miscarriage, me and my husband decided to keep the pregnancy between the two of us until after the first scan. We had a healthy 12 week scan and started telling close friends and family. Anyway, I sent her the scan photos with a quick message. And she sent a "congratulations " text back, no conversation attached, and just 1 "x", which sounds pathetic but that is code that she is pissed off with me about something.
I feel I've been pandering to her my whole life and that's the only reason why we are still friends. She thinks nothing of cutting people out of her life, she hasnt spoke to her brother in 2 years (they were really close), shes cut so many friends out of her life for such pathetic reasons. So.. should I pander to her or just let her have a little tantrum and ignore her, potentially never seeing her or her kids again? I feel it's a bit late in the day to keep worrying about her and what I may have done wrong.... I have enough issues in life. What's everyones opinion?