Dd getting bit at school

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Dd is 5 and quite happy at school. Yesterday the teacher told me she’d been bitten on the shoulder by one of the other children, it’s a new girl, older in the class and she has SEN, the teacher said she struggles to control herself, got too excitable and bit Dd
I completely understand it wasn’t her fault and so on, but when we got home, Dd was quite upset and had a nightmare later. She told me that the girl has also hit her before and Dd tries to stay away from her as she’s scared (Dd is fairly sturdy normally) I think it was a shock for her as it came out of nowhere as this girl ran up to her.
I completely understand it wasn’t the girls fault, but I also feel sad/worried for Dd. What would you do in this situation?

*Bitten at school? Probably sounds better

I think I'd just try to reassure her that you've spoken to the teacher and hopefully they'll keep an eye out.

It's difficult but there's nothing you can really do unless the situation escalates.

I think it's something nearly all kids experience at some point in their early school years, but that doesn't make it any easier to cope with.

I can appreciate you're trying to be supportive of the other girl, but the school needs to protect your daughter.

I'd ask for a meeting with someone senior at the school, and say you want to know how the school will ensure this can't happen again.

I would speak to the school about the impact it has had on your dd with regard to a nightmare. I wouldn't be ok with this and haven't been when similar happened to my child. I asked for a meeting with the class teacher first to find out how she would prevent it from happening again. When she basically said she couldn't I went to the head and actions were put in place.

@MidnightOnceMore Yes, I think the same too, my instinct is to leave it for now but obviously if anything happened again ti be straight in there having meetings. I’m just worried it will happen again. I’ve explained to dd about the girl and that she doesn’t mean to do it, but that obviously she hurt dd and that’s not allowed either. I’ve just said to be kind to her but probably stay away from her a bit at playtime..I feel bad saying that really, but also don’t want my Dd hurt
The teacher did come to tell me straightaway, but was also fairly laid back about it

@Sceptre86 Would you do if after this time straightaway?

@LoopyLooooo That’s what I was thinking, just watch and see and hopefully nothing further, it’s worrying though. I feel they have to keep a much better watch on things in the playground

I’ve just said to be kind to her but probably stay away from her a bit at playtime..I feel bad saying that really, but also don’t want my Dd hurt

You shouldn't feel bad.

They're young and still learning. Some of the kids I kept away from in primary school, I eventually became good friends with in senior.

As she’s already hit her as well I’d be asking them now how they plan to keep your daughter safe. Do they have 1-2-1 supervision for this child? They need to be looking at her needs and dealing with it to keep all the children safe.

@TriedToMakeMeGoToRehab Dd only mentioned the hit after I’d spoken to her about the bite and I think it was a while ago, having said that it couldn’t have been that long ago as they’ve only just started back not long ago at school and this girl is new.
There is the teacher and the class assistant (the usual one) and 24 children, from what I can tell, she has no 1-2-1 assistant with her. I haven’t seen/met the girl, this was the first I heard of it, but have seen no extra assistants and Dd would have mentioned another helper in the class

I asked Dd if she’s bitten/hit anyone else and she said no, which seems odd, but Dd may have just not noticed. Also after she’d been bitten, Dd said she hit the girl back 😬I don’t know what to say to her to do or not do

Most nursery children bite and get bitten at some point, it’s how they learn not to do it.

I’d not kick up a fuss yet, or you’ll be very embarrassed when it’s your turn to be told your daughter has bitten / spat / slapped etc. The staff will be dealing with it in the setting when it happens, be supportive of them.

I would however record every incident so that if it becomes a frequent problem you can show the record to nursery and ask them to do more to address it.

@Gwendimarco I think that’s the difference, it’s not nursery, it’s school. I’d understand 2 year olds, but it was just a shock for Dd, I don’t think she has been bitten before or bit anyone