OHK

[Thelma25901]

So I inherited 2 kids from OH. One is fine and pulls their weight with direction and is younger. 18 year old is a lazy, layabout with no direction. Has now sat on arse since leaving school since end of April start of May. After MANY arguments with the OH and lazy layabout he has finally got a job which is evenings 18 miles away which he requires collecting from. OH has to collect as no transport. Layabout has left house unlocked twice now. No rent, and does what he likes. I say he should move out as I did at 18 or live with mother near to his work AIBU? I must also mention we now own a house and they are no longer in HA as I sold my home and OH contributed to mortgage.

What do you mean you inherited the children? Are you the stepmother?

I assumed the OH had died but then they are picking up the 18yo from work.

Is there a correlation between them working so far away and leaving the house unlocked? It's not a very clear OP and you sound like you resent your OH's child...

Yes a step mother.

Do you think maybe the fact you clearly hate him has something to do about it? Imagine if someone spoke about your children like this. Christ. Don’t get together with someone with children if you simply don’t want them. I say this as a step mother. I haven’t inherited him either. He’s part of my life.

No he just doesn't think. Not sure the insurance would think the same when we look for a payout after a burglary because he forgot....not the 1st time.

I don't hate him, that's a strong word for anyone. Just bored after saying the same things week in, week out. There has no be some point an 18 year old takes responsibility.

Get a door with a passcode that automatically locks. No fuss no worry. Everything else sounds fine, just a young adult beginning to grow up.