Hey, so I need some advice.
So every Wednesday evening my mil goes to this spiritual psychic church thing which is down the road from us. She always uses our drive which is totally fine. She pops in sometimes to see our baby, hes 4 months old now. Its lovely to see how much she loves her grandson obviously. But he was sleeping on me when she called in and she said "Aw if I'd have known I wouldn't have called in" and all replied with was "Well you should have said" I was abit peeved she came in because I was having a bad day mentally but whatever. The evening went on etc and my partner was going to wash babys bottles but I said I'd do it as his mum was there, give them time together. Anyway fast forward to today and apparently according to my mil I was rude, snappy, and spent time in the kitchen avoiding her? I was washing and steralising all the babys stuff. And making a sandwich because I was hungry? She reckons when I replied well you should have said, she took it as well maybe you need to ring before you came. Those words did not come out of my mouth! My partner also thinks she shouldn't have to ask to come over and can call in whatever time or day they want. Which I think is so rude I would never do that to someone.
A note as well I'm currently suffering postnatal depression. I had a lovely birth but all went downhill when I had a PPH and then my son was poorly. I am trying to get help but its so difficult. I told my HV about it all and because I have never struggled to bond with my son or suicidal its really hard to refer me to perinatal etc. So I obviously haven't been myself.