We've always been a close family growing up just me, mum and my sister and my mum liked it that way, she encouraged us to always put family first.
My sister (we'll call her E) pops in to mums most evenings with her dc.
I have always had a good relationship with both but last year I had a baby, my situation is different to E's as I have a husband and we enjoy spending time together as a family, whereas E's only family is me, my mum and her dc.
Things came to ahead after we had our baby when we started spending more time as a family and less at mums and E had a big problem with this.
I had to cut contact with E for various reasons mainly because the families enmeshment was suffocating me and I needed to break free, I also feel this was between me and my sister rather than my mum but my mum insisted that I make peace with E which ultimately led me to walk away from both.
Fast forward a year and I bump into my mum on the train, it was actually nice to see her, emotional and I felt a sense of regret that I'd not had her in my life so we chat and agree to put the past behind us.
Here's the thing I'm not sure how I feel about seeing E at the moment and would like to take it one step at a time, so I agree to just see my mum at first to see where things go which she agreed to but her then having spoken to E about it she decides that wouldn't be fair on E so she doesn't want a relationship with me without E as she won't let me come between the family.
I feel like walking away and staying stuff it I tried but Aibu to think my mum should be able to separate her relationship with each of her daughters?
Or is all or nothing the norm?